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Yes, so I am living with two difficult persons. My Al-anon tools has really helped a lot, and the posts I read in this Group. Just a pouring of my heart: I do my best to detach, use the slogans but I guess I just have to live with the sad and lonely feeling.
((Jocelgp))) it is progress not perfection that we seek. i have found that by working the Steps, a few times, that empty lonely feeling of which you speak , has been filled by the presence of my HP and my own self.
I discovered I was lonely because i had abandoned myself.Once I learned how to stay inside myself, nurture myself and validate my needs I was no longer empty.
What's happening at the very moment is just too much for me. Yes, as discussed in my other post, perhaps I'm tired and stressed from the additional load of household chores because our housemaid resigned. The demands, insensitivity and a whole lot more behaviors of my AH plus the drama of my aging mother, and the conflict between the two of them exhausts my energy to stay calm. Lately my mom has been constantly nagging me of my husband's behavior considering we don't have a housemaid, how she's annoyed with him. I would have wanted to discuss the idea of separation from my husband in a cool and civilised manner but his "immature" ways has led me to erupt again. I couldn't think straight in this situation and I just hope and pray that God will intervene in His ways and that I may be able to discern according to His Will what should be done
