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Just an update about how things are going since my A daughter lost her baby :( She and her boyfriend are being very supportive of each other. They found a house for the 2 of them to rent together. They currently live with many people with little privacy. They can have the puppy with them too. The puppy is doing well after being run over but will always be crippled on his hind area. He is the one that goes to AA meetings with my daughter :) I was with my parents for awhile and it took my mind off of things here at home. It is always hard for me to leave them and especially mom with her alzheimers :( I have been sleeping alot since I overdid myself there helping out with all kinds of things. Once I got back home, it hit me again about losing my grandbaby and the feelings came. I did research things on the internet and that calmed me down and helped to bring more sense to me. We are so glad we saved our daughter's puppy or she would have lost two loved ones in 2 months. My daughter did develop a uterine infection and that worried me but she seems to be doing better. Her moods are all over too but I guess that is to be expected. So far she is clean and sober and I am so proud of her! She stays in touch with us and stops by often. Her boss has been wonderful. He told her to take off as much time as she needed but of course she did not get paid for it. I was so afraid she would pull away from us again and now I am more relaxed about that. Her boyfriend is also recoverying and he is doing well too and staying clean and sober. It just shows that there is always hope but the work lies within each of us. I have alot of work to do myself. When I took the focus off my daughter, I was left with alot of changes to make on me. Living one day at a time has been my main theme lately. Of course when I am around my ill parents, every day they are alive is a blessing and a very real thing. That is why we all benefit from living in the moment and enjoying what things we have to be grateful for. I am grateful for all my support systems at this moment. your friend in recovery, cdb :) xoxoxoxoxo
Hi CDB not sure whether you read this when I posted it for someone else. This is a saying I was recently told - You can't change the past it is gone, you can work your tail off for the future, but how do you know you will be there to enjoy it? There is only NOW - you have to live in the now. I am so glad that you and your daughter are remaining close and that you are spending special time with your Mum and Dad they are precious. You know CDB it doesn't matter how old you are you always want your Mum to turn to when you are down. You are a wonderful Mum to both your daughter and her partner and a great grandma to her puppy. I am grateful to HP that they are all being looked after. Time for you to take a bit of a breather. Luv Leo xx
I am glad to hear that things are coming together for you and seem to be getting better. It's an awesome sight to see the program working in others. It's what gets me through and gives me the determination to keep going.
Thanks for the update. I am glad that things are going well for you and your family. I know the loss is hard, but it seems you all are trying to focus on what you need to focus on. Take care of yourself. You are a wonderful person!
Thank you all for your very kind words and support. As far as me, I am resting, resting and resting. Then it is time to work on the taxes, ugh. I do find time for me and have developed quite the backbone lately too :) The atmosphere in the house has been quite comfortable and my relationship with my spouse is better. HP seems to be working in both our lives and we are both growing. We are communicating better than we have been too and getting along well. I am hopeful and that is good for a person with depression and chronic pain. I am so grateful for so many things and feel very blessed :) your friend in recovery, cdb xoxoxoxo
I am so glad that your daughter was able to save her puppy. Some animals are remarkable in disability. I have a cat who has a shortened hind paw and she is pretty agile and capable and happy. I hope your daughter's puppy continues to thrive.
I am glad that your life is balanced and that you can rest. I find rest sacred and try to do more of it. I carve out time to take care of me now which is very very new for me. Before taking care of me was the very last thing I wanted to do. Now it is up there on my agenda.
