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Almost 7 months on my own out here in the big world.Things have been interesting away from the marriage of 25 yrs. I filed for divorce and it should be final in dec. XAH is out of rehab and I just
recently spoke to him. I dont know if he is sober but he cries alot on the phone. I detach and try to stick to taking care of small business i need to straigthen out with him.
We owe the IRS alot of money so I delegated that matter to his sister who elected to finally help her brother. I try to be civil and grateful to her.
I still am unemployed and am trying to be careful with the money i have left and that worries me.
6mths with my new old guy. I am now beginning to dig into some of his behaviors to try to decide if the good outweighs the bad. He is kind,helpful,loving,funny and loyal but he also has some traits that worry me that was evident in my x..like laziness with domestic stuff, not a self starter there. Also things related to his being a bachelor still at 63.
Thank goodness that i have my alanon tools to help me navigate and alert me.
Overall, im very happy i left X because i rediscovered myself and my capabilities,interests,and can think clearly
Thanks for updating us. It works when you work it and you are certainly doing the work. I was married 30 years when I finally decided to leave my AH. I've never looked back. He didn't survive, but I did. Hugs, GE.
Great update Alyce - keep working it....it looks good on you!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
