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Hey folks! I had to quit another board I was on cuz it was literally bought out by the treatment center I work at and the large addiction social media site with message boards (which I liked and hated at the same time) is continuing to move closer and closer to my job as in me having to interact with the owners in a professional capacity that would bust my anonymity in ways I can't really have. Icky and uncomfortable feelings. Conflict of interest. Aside from that, I have realized I need alanon MORE right now anyhow from working in rehab again and letting clients drive me nuts while I try to people please them (and bosses) and fix them. Bleck. One of my bosses and I literally joke about my intermittent coda meltdowns and it is kinda funny, but also kinda sad, troubling and not funny.
Anyhow, you guys are FAR nicer and more courteous and I love and miss that and I do need the help.
PS: I know I just responded to some threads with my addictions counselor hat on and it soulds like I am saying "all alcoholics/addicts are liars, suck, and should be run from if possible." This is due to work fatigue and also a rusty alanon program. Bare with me. Hugs all.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Thursday 14th of July 2016 05:24:47 PM
Happy to have you back, as much as you can be. Missed you, and hope some of us can ease your nuttiness, and fix it attitudes! Your response to your counselor was kinda wild...but I have to say there is some truth in the running part... Linsc
Thanks...no...that boss is the bomb. She and I laugh cuz it is true. I need to apply alanon principles and tools to my issues. I guess it is not that sad, it is not unlike when I drift from AA too far. Stuff I learned and really was on point with gets to not be second nature.
Yes. This job is cool. I like it. I probably care too much. Bosses are pretty cool. It is reputable and seems to be on the up and up. My brand of crazy is to have some "issues" regardless. If I hated the job I would be depressed. If I like it, I go all perfectionist and stress myself out. An no, not total crazy but it is a trend. Marriage is good. Life is fine. I FIND the stuff to stress about. That part is annoying. Like...when do I get to be totally normal (never...but centered in program is better eh?)
When I saw your title, my arms practiced hugging you back. This is good.
I completely live the life you're describing of needing AlAnon in all my affairs. I need it. Life is so better. Welcome back.
((((Pink)))) When do you get to be normal?? LOL...Abnormal is our normal and we do it better than anyone else we know including our clients...Keep coming back brother.
WB PC.....speaking in code as my fingers are tired tonight! It's funny how boards can change (or we do) and they no longer meet our needs or are just exhausting. I will admit I do not post/share/read any other recovery forum message boards, but belong to them for other interests. So ... glad that you can join us again and as often as possible.
For those of you who have the creds., I don't think it's wrong to put that hat on once in a while - it's part of your ESH - just MHO!
I gotta agree with Jerry too - we - normal? I don't even think there is such a thing and if it exists, I've never, ever seen it except for in my fairy-tale mind! However, we excel at abnormal and that's just perfectly OK with me.
I will say that for your job, passionate people spill over without intending to. It's great that you have a super boss that understands you well enough to point it out in a gentle way. I am middle-aged (old to my kids, but that's another story for another day) and still struggle at times to direct my passion appropriately. Living and learning one day at a time!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hi Pink, my sponsor always said normal is only a setting on the washing machine. I embrace my different side more through al-anon and have realized its from my past experiences and I think it has made me feel very deeply for people and get into a helping field for that reason. You are a wonderful and caring human and I'm glad you are here!
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