update vent trust .. a little bit of everything lol - Al-Anon Family Group

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

update vent trust .. a little bit of everything lol

TLC2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi there! Something just clicked in my brain when you mentioned not seeing well, and that it was affecting your work. Do you use a computor at work? (who doesn't these days!) Anyway, what I wanted to mention is that I bought a mouse with a magnifier on it for reading small print. You just click the button on the side, and Voila! I don't remember what it cost, but am pretty sure it was under $25.(Canadian)

I think you really hit the nail on the head when you said his being worried about you was actually being worried about who was going to look after him? I have come to that conclusion myself! Maybe it's the nature of the beast, eh?

So sorry to hear you might have MS. I'll pray that it isn't so, and is just stress. It's funny what can happen to our health when we're under a lot of stress.

Anyway, just wanted to mention that mouse to you. Praying for you, with Love, TLC

debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Jennifer, What kind of dog is Sully? I missed it. Love the name too. If you can, i tell ya a doggy door is so wonderful. I raised 3 puppies and never had accidents.

A Great Pyrenees, Bassett Hound and an English Bulldog. Was so much fun. I now cannot raise one pup alone, like i cannot raise a kitten alone.

Can you send pics? I would love to see him and you too for that matter. edensheart@centurytel.net.

I am so sad to read of you having MS. That is pretty scarey for you I am sure. Losing your sight is a hard one too. Do you have any paid sick leave or disability insurance?

Yes I relate to the being sick and A reacting weird. I always saw that they can be sick and sore or whatever, but I was not suppose to be sick. Took all the attention off them.

My A gets so mad that I have all kinds of meds. I don't take them. Hate them. But have to get them all becuz SS will think I am better if I don't. That is not true, I just do my best to not take them unless I am really bad.

When the A is talking he will call me a drug addict becuz of my meds. no matter that i am disabled and I take it as medicine only.

If he is around I have to hide my meds. so many times I hide them, then when I needed them forgot where I put them. Once my pet pig, Pollypoopoohead had them all scattered in my closet and under my bed!

I think it may be more he feels helpless and it freaks him out to have you be so ill. He does not know how in the world he will take care of you. Remember they are the age they were when they really got active with their disease.

Your attitude sounds good. That helps a lot believe me. I have so many icky things happen. Now I am used to it and just think about the funny part of it.

I have anti anxiety meds and rarely take them. Doctors can be pretty freaked out these days. Hate to think ya have to not have your meds at home. There are lots of creative ways to hide them. I used to put them in the petticoat of my raggedy ann.. lol somehow i could not see my a looking in her pants.. lol lol lol

I had some very old neat ladies hats on my wall, stuck them inside them. Put them inside stuffed animals, Put them in the dogs bed, um cut holes in my purse and put them way inside. could put them inside a womans intimate monthly stuff.

See how come I could not remember the last place I hid them? OH and inside the umbrella,

I know shut up debilyn....

Are you thinking bout learning braille? Or will you need to?

anyway so glad you shared. love,debilyn

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I am so sorry to hear about your illness. I am also very sorry to hear abour your sight issue. Something that dropped into my mind is that people who have literacy issues often need to read aloud. I think they just need to have someone hear them. Perhaps you can do that?

I think personally that takes a lot of patience. I once had a boyfriend who was technically illiterate. He took a class in literacy and it changed his life in many ways. I encouraged him to do that but I must say it was very had to sit through his homework. He really was tremendously slow. I can see that patience is one of the issues I have to work with.

I have had many many issues with my A around illness. Now I do not talk to him about it. I set myself up if I do. I just do not mention my illness and do not ask him for much. My a has his own illness and illness related issues and is very depressed about them sometimes. I can relate to the resentment though. These days since I am in Al-anon I try to monitor the resentment and not let it be too toxic. I certainly did not do that before. I do now because I know where I end up if I seethe in resentment all the time.

Maresie.

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