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Taraxacum


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I am on a vacation with my family of origin and I keep coming back to - "why did I think this was a good idea?" And "thank goodness I found alanon"

I am trying to stay on my side of the street and just take care of myself. And I still feel some pressure to do things I don't want to do, and resentment is building. Yesterday I finally took time away from my family, took a walk spent a few hours by myself. I realized it is all their sick thinking that is making me so uncomfortable - so much denial and my mother trying to make everything happy on the surface, trying to enmesh herself in our relationships and our lives. And lots of communication break downs or flat out ignoring my boundaries. All while I aomehow slide back into my childhood coping skills and never speak up for myself.

 

This morning, calm and rested, I feel thankful for all my qualifiers, all the reminders to live in recovery and practice my tools. 

 

So glad I packed some conference literature and I have this space while I am away from my home group. I found a meeting local to me and found my back bone too (funny how I misplaced it when trying to please my mother, lol)

 

This morning I am ready to enjoy my vacation thanks to Alanon

 



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missmeliss


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I too find my family much easier to enjoy if I remember my al-anon toolkit. Good for you; hope the rest of your vacation is wonderful


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This morning you are my HPs tool.  I am on the west side of the u.s. and feeling and thinking just as you are and I do have the literature soooo I will get. It now.   mahalo soooo much for being the tool.  Hope your vacation continues peacefully. ((hugs))



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I can't hang with my FOO without my program.......I've tried and boy howdy - they can bring me back to insanity faster than anything else if I am not prepared. I too am grateful for Al-Anon and all that I have learned.

Tara - I too hope the balance of your vacation is splendid!!! (((Hugs)))

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I'm to so happy for you iah,happy you found your peace through living alanon tools and slogans,I've yet to do this,I know it's gonna be a lot of practice....in recovery,lu

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