The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for July 5 speaks about Detachment. It gives a very simple and clear explanation of this powerful tool and goes on the explain that Detachment is simply the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others the freedom to do the same.
. It suggests that this freedom allows us to maintain our identity and still love and identify with the feelings of others. It makes note that we don't have to like everything anybody says or does,and we don't have to strive to change them - even when we think they are wrong.. We can continue to learn how to care without losing compassion.
The quote is from George Herbert; "love your neighbor,and t pulls not down your hedge."
Powerful tool and after much practice, one I have learned to use automatically.
Thanks Betty for the daily, your service and the ESH! Detachment for me felt very foreign when I first came to Al-Anon. I had been so entrenched and so controlling for so long, it just felt as if I was giving up on them. As I practiced detaching and was able to let go and let God, the compassion came. I know today that I can love my qualifiers from across the street as needed, and I can allow them to be who they are, whether I agree or not. I no longer try to change them, care about being right and believe they have their own journey, their own HP and their own destiny.
That which connects us at times appears to be blood only and that's OK. I have faith today that my HP is going to lead me where I am supposed to be and I just keep trying to move forward one day at a time!
Happy Tuesday and may you also have a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Betty. I think detachment was difficult for me when I first came into program because of me trying to control everything around me! Why couldn't I be the director?? Over time and work I have realized that there is such freedom in detaching and it is a gift to myself and the people around me who are also free to live their own lives.
