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I am new here. I have been estranged from my older alcoholic brother for over 10 years now because he is a violent alcoholic. My father told me that my brother's doctors told him he will be dead in two years if he keeps drinking. This diagnosis was over a year ago. My dad tells me he has been sober about a year. I sent my brother a letter telling him he is in my thoughts. I wanted to write him in case he does die I did my part in reaching out to him. He has not contacted me. Does anyone here know anyone that died of alcoholism?
Welcome to MIP Kellygirl - glad you found us and glad you joined in. Many here have lost a loved one to this disease and you are not alone. This disease is powerful and progressive; it's also considered a family disease, suggesting all family members are often affected in one way or another by the disease.
I suggest you seek out local Al-Anon meetings. You will find others affected by the disease who can give you support through their own ESH (Experience, Strength & Hope). I am sorry for how the disease has affected your family and hope your brother continues his journey with sobriety. Perhaps he's just not ready to talk - we do learn in Al-Anon recovery how powerless we are over others and that we truly can only work on ourselves.
Keep coming back - there is always hope and support in the fellowship. You are not alone!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Welcome KellyGirl I alxo suggest that yu search out alanon face to face meetings and attend. ALcoholism is A DREADFUL CHRONIC DISEASE OVER WHICH WE ARE POWERLESS.
My son passed from this disease at age 42 I will hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers
I have over the last six months watch my A slowly kill herself with alcohol. She finally admitted to being an alcoholic and now watching the painful symptoms of detox. It sure beats the alternative, as nothing I was saying was helping her stop. I do understand the anguish of knowing someone is dying and they are killing themselves, and the helplessness of it all. It does help to have a support system with friends, family, and especially an Al-Anon group, here and f2f. I always say al-anon has saved me, and I feel has saved my A with the tools to guide me in my own recovery. It really works. I will send prayers for your brother's recovery. Please keep coming back!
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well. Anonymous
Aloha Kellygirl for me it is stunning to watch the miracles of recovery from alcoholism. It brings such hope and happiness. I have seen the deaths with family memb and friends yet not all die so many who want to live and are willing to work with and stay with programs of recovery go on to live happy healthy lives. Pray he continues in his sobriety. Prayers sent from HI.
