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C2C reading for July 2 speaks about our self destructive behavior. It points out that procrastination is one of those self-destructive behaviors.that hinders our growth and life. We develop this defect by living with the disease of alcoholism and It produces needless anxiety. Al-Anon can help to manage and change that pattern.
When we learn to keep the focus on ourselves and to pay attention to our own thoughts , we may find that what is causing our discomfort is that we are in the habit of postponing unpleasant tasks until the last possible moment. .it is often the desire to do it perfectly to avoid undue criticisms that is the reason It then leads to what alanon calls the 3 Ps Perfectionism, procrastination, paralyses
In order to fact this issue , we must acknowledge that we have to perform a task eventually and that we find it hard to relax until the job is done. When we see this , it is important that we decide that we might want to do the task right away so as it remove the cause of the anxiety, If we don this we can then and then appreciate the rest of the day. It must be noted that old habits are hard to change . They didn't develop overnight and will only let go slowly but surely. . By focusing on ourselves we can move toward freedom and serenity today.
The quote is from the Liberian proverb; "do not look where you fell, but where you slipped."
I appreciate this reading as it points out the dangers of procrastination. I have heard it said that we've all fall into 3 P mode from time to time that is; "perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis. As I work towards keeping the focus on my task and simply chipping away. slowly but surely the project gets done and I am free.
Thank you for this reading it hits home especially today. I am a procrastinator. Just last night I finally realized that I so many clothes to last me forever.I wear so many that I almost don't have to wear them again. Anyway I made my mind to start today. Last night was a wake up call. Progress not perfection. Easy does it but just do it. Thanks Betty. Have wonderful 4th of July.
I was making a list of the little things I put off.
I always feel so much better about Myself after doing
what needs doing. I only do the basics and that Is not
A healthy way To live. The push comes to shove approach.
I will think of them as the three P's And try to do better.
Thanks for the reading and have a happy fourth to all !
Thank you Betty for the daily and for your service. Thanks to both of you for your ESH. I know I am extreme in my thinking - black/white, right/wrong and have been working to change that. Of course, my actions can be similar -- all or nothing or perfectionist vs. procrastinator. So - I have been working on that too. I have gone through long periods of paralysis caused by over analyzing and fear of the unknown.
One task at a time, one moment at a time, one day at a time, I work to improve this. I have to hold on to it took me a long while to get behind and get insane and it will take me a while to regroup, get organized and sanity will always improve so long as I work this program.
It's raining here and supposed to all weekend long. I had planned golf and softball, which I know are not happening based on our weather forecast. As this program has suggested, my Plan B is to catch up on some chores around here and do some bingewatching of a couple shows. My dog refused to go out this morning because of the rain. I got an umbrella and off we went. I have never walked in the rain as I usually can watch for a break in the weather and go at a different time. Well - with 99-100% chance of rain until tomorrow, I just bit the bullet and off we went.
It was peaceful and calm as nobody else was out and she finally did her business! Doing things different is a great way for me to change up my outlook/attitude!!! I am off to my F2F meeting this morning and hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! (((hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
