Al-Anon Family Group

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Al-Anon Family Group -> i did engage this time
Post Info TOPIC: i did engage this time
Hoot Nanny


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1686
Date:
i did engage this time
Permalink  

I got so fed up this morning w my AH. It was over some petty thing & I lost it! He said I said. I yelled. Tried to defend myself really.long story. I cried apologized for my behavior my side of the street. He eventually got quiet & sad. The thing is he made a statement that said that how did he put up w me for 17 years. Yeah 17 years. So now that that was said I feel like he could leave w o saying goodbye any moment like he did before. He likes to run. He has changed. After writing down his assets this happens. I will work the program & rest like I need to.

__________________
Hoot Nanny
hotrod


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 17196
Date:
Permalink  

Hi Kathleen Please forgive yourself and remember to continue to trust HP .

I have found that instead of becoming angry, I practice validating myself by stating positive statements about myself such as: I am a kind, intelligent, caring supportive person.



__________________
Betty

THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

Talmud
Hoot Nanny


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1686
Date:
Permalink  

What happened? I will elaborate a little more just to put you in the know. My plate his plate. I tried to put a platea waythat we share st breakfast so he feels better & he won't have to "dirty" another plate. A few things were said & he said a few choice words. I blew up & yelled. & cried. I apologized a little later & he said I sm sorry you yelled at me. So I apologized & he put it back on me. Then he got sad. You should have seen his eyes. Now I got that over with. He left for the gym. I am home recovering from anxiety & lack of sleep. I need a nap. Tonight I am going to bed early & once again wake up early. I will be over this now that I got it out. This was very cathartic for me. Thanks for listening to my post.

__________________
Hoot Nanny
Iamhere


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 11569
Date:
Permalink  

Kathleen - you are worthy and I hope you know that. (((Hugs))) to you and positive thoughts your way! Be gentle with you and this will pass!

__________________

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Al-Anon Family Group -> Al-Anon Family Group -> i did engage this time