These 3 things irritate me cause I feel that I can't work them or make them work for me,I have a hard time saying no,and setting boundaries or standing my ground these are all aimed at my abf was xabf,we have been getting along great he has slaved himself  my yard ,got it looking beautiful,I feel like I'm let him force his solutions on our relation isn't over with that it's an forever relationship putting all bad in the past ,I know this desease runs in cycles ,and I know he is having to take something to keep himself from craving opiates,still my mind just can't disconnect from him .also I'm setting myself up for a huge disappointment come either August or next June he has to go do some years in prison for a sell and distribute drug charge that was a huge felon on top of all of his other felons,he has a camper that he has fixed up,and I've told him again that he can't be living here with me and he still tries so hard by doing things around my place,he is a very hard worker and has to keep busy to keep things off his mind such as all them charges he got to face.as for my moving that I posted here the other day now I'm thinking maybe I'm running ,running away from having to keep on dealing with the same ole issues with abf and a/s,I'm just tired of fighting it,but the apartment thing if I can get the one I want just sounds so serene,although I love my home here and all the work I e put into it over 13 yrs I'm having to weigh it all out.......hugs.  Lu