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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for June 18 speaks about what we often feel when we first enter program. Many of us are filled with anger and resentment because it appears other people's live are perfect and we envy what we think they have.
The reading goes on to state that in time, after working the program, we discover that each of us are special. . Each has a unique set of skills, interests and opportunities and that everything we need to do is within us today. That doesn't mean that we have everything we want.but if we learn to trust that my HP knows what's good for me, I can learn to accept my life on life's terms. .
The reading goes on to suggest that envying others because I want what they have, is a complete waste of time. We are on different paths--. They have what they need, and I have what I need. Resentment will only put a wedge between me and other people.
I am not a victim. I am just where I belong. And envy is nothing more than a hostile form of self-pity. Instead I can be grateful for the many gifts, talents and opportunities that I have been given. When I spend my time appreciating what I have instead of drawing my lack. I feel good about my life.
The quote is from Horace; "whatever our God has blessed you with take it with a grateful hand."
Thanks to this program I have learned the value of gratitude and find the benefits daily.
Great reminder, thanks Betty.
If I continually want what I don't have, I'm guaranteed to never be satisfied.
I needed to remember this today
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I am guilty of envy. I am somewhat jealous of people. I feel like though that I am realizing that I never had it so good & that some people seem happier than they really are. I am not a newcomer but sometimes I feel like I could be. I have failed miserably in some instances. I just want to be grateful for what I have not want what people have except for the program members. I want what the long-timers have. I don't think that is unhealthy. I think that we all have something to offer in this program. I learn from everyone.
Thank you Betty for the daily and the ESH! I love how the program taught me that when I compare my insides to other's external 'show' it is not logical or sane. Everybody has got something and I am grateful for my own place and life as it's brought me to whom I am today. I did not always feel this way and truly thought my experiences were way worse than others. I felt so alone and unique and shame and guilt and anger and...... everything you could feel when the disease is in control.
I am today grateful for who I am and where I am. I am grateful I have enough humility to want to be a better person today than yesterday. I am so grateful this program gave me a chance to truly find and know me and be a better version of me.
Make it a great Saturday all - hot, hot and .... you guessed it hot today! Been to a meeting and I am considering a nap!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
