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Funerals stink! 52 sad, mentally ill, sad, drug addict sad, alcoholic sad. SUICIDE, sad. What more can I say? I can relate to the mental illness part. It is just so sad that people who really didn't know her thought she was the crazy lady in our town. I am not much different. If I had the addictions that she had, I would be even more like she was. The thinking I had brings me to the fact that if I don't stay healthy & live until I am 52, I could been in her place. It was one of the saddest funerals I have ever been to. I think a lot of the people just wanted to pay their respects. I personally wanted to show that I had nerves of steel to be able to share that I knew her & that I could relate to her a bit.
Nothing more needs to be said. I am in recovery. I am OK.
Kathleen
(((Kathleen))) - so sorry for your loss and so proud of you for being true to you. I have to agree with your very first sentence - Funerals Suck!
There was a memorial this weekend for a friend in recovery - he was 61 years old - in recovery (AA) and just a lovely, gentle spirit. He always said, "It's all about the gratitude." He said this while battling diabetes and other health issues, while being unemployed and living at his brother's home with his fur baby at another home, he said this in spite of all that was going on and/or was happening.
He passed away the day I left town for AZ a few weeks ago from liver failure due to his diabetes (complicated probably by the alcohol). He was on the transplant list and didn't tell any of us what was up. I believe he thought he'd be around longer - great memorial and great sober man who truly lived one day at a time.
Ii not only hate funerals, I think it brings out the ick in icky people. I attended one for a very young lady who was shot/killed by a drug-dealing felon. There were tons of people there, but I almost think more were there for the 'scoop' and gossip that to celebrate this young lady's life. SMH - grateful you are on this recovery journey with us all!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
