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Good morning MIP family.....I type this morning with only one eye - my right eye is swollen shut. Yesterday, I went out to play softball - it is a program league and usually very fun and even spiritual.
I was pitching and a guy hit a line shot back at me - I did not get the glove up and it tagged me hard on the forehead. The hit was above my right eye and broke my sunglasses. Of course, it split my head open and swelled to the size of a baseball. Again, I and one other young man remained very calm and just did what we needed to do. I was told to go to the hospital/clinic/seek treatment, and I just wanted to get out of the heat and then make a decision once I got home.
I had driven and picked up 3 others who can't drive/have no license, and so we had to ask for help to get us all back to our places. It was not hard to ask for help and / or be powerless about driving with a head trauma. I came home, I butterflied my cut and laid around quasi-upright with ice for the entire day. I am OK and feeling blessed as this could have been way, way worse.
I woke up this morning and they head is swollen way less, but my eye is swollen shut and has lovely color. So - seeing to write here is a bit of a challenge - I only got one eye right now and it's not my good eye! If I am around less than normal, you all know why. I've posted some photos - the eye is today - the other is yesterday after the incident. As you can see, I am lucky it did not get my nose or teeth - they would be gone.
I don't do well with down time. I had to cancel golf for today and I've already bowed out of softball for tomorrow night. *sigh* - I am grateful to be alive - no doubt, but very disappointed that I could not duck. That ball came fast and furiously back at me.
Prayers for fast healing would be appreciated and I need to feel the love from my MIP family!!! (((Hugs))) to all!
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
((Iam))) I am so sorry that you were injured. Not only are you a catcher but also a pitcher wow!! You are certainly a trooper!!!
I love how you handled the entire situation Your courage and serenity in the face of this trauYour injury does look painful , I am glad that you intend to rest and supply ice to the area.
Positive thoughts on the way.
PS -Even with a painful injury you look beautful
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:42:22 AM
Thanks all - it actually looks a bit worse than it feels......I am restless, irritable and discontent as I can't see well and don't do 'rest' well......
You know - I walked my dog with shades and a hat on and I was thinking about the young man who was my calm partner yesterday. He is probably early 20s and is in AA....he was a rock-star, and calm and comforting and did not freak about the injury the blood or anything. I of course do not know his history but he reminded me that all diseased are a son, brother, nephew, etc. of another and he showed me the grace and dignity of a young man raised right by parents some where who may 'need to hear' about his courage and support.
As a parent of an A, I try hard to look for their goodness vs. all the disease has presented. I have been praying about a way to recognize him in a small way for his support and comfort. I've already sent him a thank you note....any ideas would be welcome.
Back to ice and rest and maybe even a nap.....doubtful but going to try!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
A nice note and maybe a gift card would be a kind gesture. Maybe talk to his team about doing something for him at a game . . . I'm not sure how well you know him, or what he would like, too much attention makes some people (me!) self conscious so I would ask around, or ask him directly to see what might fit for him.
I'm glad it wasn't any worse! Those line drives can be killers!!
I do hope you are watching yourself closely for signs of concussion. Things like that can slip in and you don't even notice without objective medical personnel evaluating you. I recently got the end of my finger with a sawzall (not going to attach pictures), and I thought about not going to the hospital, but when there they gave me an IV of antibiotics and said my finger had been broken and need to be splinted for a couple of weeks.
Thanks Kenny - I am watching closely and appreciate the input.....my future D-I-L is a nurse and is also keeping an eye on me.....
So - here's how my day has gone.....since my last post. Laid around with ice and got my eye open. Tried to take a nap - spent 4 hours being still/horizontal and then finally - fell asleep for 45 minutes. During that time, my cold pack slipped off and both eyes swelled up a bit....
I just have to laugh that I have to be still for 4 hours to get a short nap - such is life. I am beyond grateful to be retired and able to adjust my schedule as necessary. If I were still working, I don't know that I would have made it all day - I do have a head-ache that comes/goes.
Off to rest again for a while. (((Hugs))) to all!
PS - I can't believe my first photos I show @ MIP are this!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Paul - I have an oil change early in the AM so ... I will let you know how people react in public....I did not go any where today - just R&R.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks all for the prayers, well wishes and positive thoughts. I am on the mend and am practicing home rest/recovery. I will readily admit - I have much more work to do in 'rest'. My son's baby momma who is a nurse came over to check on me today and asked me if I was resting....I said, "Yes - for me or compared to my normal." She just shook her head as she knows what that means...
My head is great - all the issues are now around my eyes. Both are black and they look really, really bad. I don't have any real pain unless I raise my eyebrows, sneeze, etc. and of course I am one who talks with my facial expressions so I have had to practice not smiling, frowning, etc. It's hard but doable. However, my eyes are swollen enough that it's blocking my vision and I can't see well - especially my phone and my computer.
I do not photograph well so don't have many of 'me'. I do need to find one when I am normal - I am truly not as homely as these appear - I just never wear make up to ball....
(((Hugs))) to all - onward and upward - F2F meeting tomorrow - should be fun (NOT)!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks all - it's so much better today.....lotta color left but swelling is way down and I can see clearly for now! I am planning to go out and about a bit and am looking forward to my F2F meeting today. I am always amazed at the body's ability to heal....It's just amazing to me less than 3 days ago, my head had that balloon look and today, just color. (((hugs))) back to one and all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks girl friend - I am doing well! I truly am amazed at how the body heals.....it's hard to believe I'm only 4 days away from the 'hit' and most of it looks almost back to normal. I just am having issues with my vision as my eye lids are swollen which affects line of site.
But - I am blessed and grateful that I am healing nicely!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
working a good program really helps the healing I have found. Your entire system will benefit. Great for you however watch out for repetition. (((hugs)))
Whatever is assisting with healing, I'll take it and I am so grateful as this could have been so much worse. I am supposed to play tonight and 'think' I am ready. I was trying to determine if I am now fearful of getting hit and really don't have a clear answer for that question. I do know my body is still healing - I had the grandbabies yesterday for 5 hours and after they left, I took a 3 hour nap!!!
I was worn out and they were very, very good and I didn't really have to chase too much. So - healing continues!!!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks El-Cee - thoughts are very much appreciated. I finally decided today was the day to take my contacts out and go 'free' to see if that helped with my vision. My eyes have been watering a bit this week too - part allergies, part healing and who knows what else may be happening.
I swear - even though I am an adult, I sometimes don't think things through ... I popped out my contacts, and got myself together as I had to go to the store. I forgot how bad I look and just put on my glasses and out the door I go. I get to the store and go to put the sun visor up and then realized I had on my glasses vs. my sunglasses. I had a twinge of doubt about doing what I needed to do because of how my face looked. *sigh* - I am not the first person who has a face injury nor will I be the last, but in that moment, I was overwhelmed to go into public looking as I did....
I am so grateful for this program as my HP nudged me along saying how I look is not nearly important as HOW I ACT......I went in and did my thing and returned home without questions, incident, etc. Nobody said anything and I survived it....If I had thought this through, I would have left my contacts in a while longer so I could wear my sunglasses to shop...duh!
So - while I am healing well I am realizing that I am going to have some color for a long, long while and no amount of concealer or foundation is going to cover it up - those dark circles I used to dislike are now black....LOLOL...
F2F meeting tomorrow and Sunday! Excited to see my program family!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
