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I'm back in time. After two years of not living with a drinker and living a good life. I'm back living with a drinker. It's sad. It's not even been two weeks yet and there's hidden cans, lies and my fear has kicked in. I also have turned mute. Can't seem to bring myself to phone my sponsor or an alanon person. I can't remember how I got out of this, don't know if I've got the strength again. Could run away. Help please xxx
El-Cee, Oh I would have given anything if after just two weeks I had the awareness that this was not for me. You already have that. Good for you.
What's your next step (after posting here, which I applaud)?
((LC)) You are not alone You have not jumped into your old tools of denial and pretend- you came here and shared your concerns.
You have your tools and HP is with you. You know how to detach, focus on yourself, say what you mean and mean what you say after you have examined your motives and uncovered what you want and need.
Keep an open mind and learn the lessons that this will provide.
"They" are not the only ones who suffer relapse...we can and do also and the solutions are the same...back into program all of it just like before. You don't have to like it...that is not required. Love you and thanks for the help you have always given me in the past. ((((hugs))))
(((El-Cee))) - sending you warmth, hugs and positive thoughts. I have to agree - coming here to post your truth is huge. You and HP will get through this and we will be here to support you every step of the way. You are not alone...(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
