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After another night of constant disruptions due to my AH drinking, I have decided today to prepare our guest room for a treasured guest...ME!! I am going to convert that guest room in to an oasis of relaxing comfort for myself for these times when sleeping in my own room is not serving me well. I am buying new sheets and sheer drapes to allow me to have the airflow on hot nights. I am going to get a new clock that I can rely on and maybe even hook the cable box back up so I can watch TV on nights I choose to. I am stocking the bed side table with some of my books, and lotions and lip balms and for sure earplugs and an eye mask. I may even put some more thought in to the room decor. It looks kind of cobbled together right now. But it is an ocean themed room with a beautiful quilt my mother made especially for the room. Some throw pillows and better frames on the artwork should do it.
I am tired today and I shouldn't have to be. I didn't take care of myself last night, and I should have. Next time I will use that tool box I have received from Al-Anon and all of you and treat myself a bit better.
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Bethany
"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be." Abe Lincoln
Great choice Bethany
After a few years of living in a 2 bedroom flat with my partner and child I insisted that when we moved we each have a bedroom and OH did I love that personal sacred space. I can't imagine being without it now.
Have fun decorating it the way you like...I know I did
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I moved out when my ex was raging and
I needed to be safe in my own bed. He only
Did it a few times that was enough. I did not
Say a word just went into sleep there.
Hugs glad you will have a wonderful oasis
And calming place to go.
Sounds heavenly!!! I too would be lost without my special place.....the good news in my home - my AH one morning many years ago told me that I snore, and he wasn't getting good sleep for work. He started sleeping on the couch and then wasn't rested well there. So, he moved to an upstairs bed-room (too hot), another upstairs bed-room (bed wasn't comfy enough) and wasn't happy/satisfied any where.
We have a finished basement too so I got a new queen size bed, new mattresses (high-end) and a large flat screen TV and created a man-cave/frat room for him. He's happy, I'm happy and it's all good! The humor - it took him about 8 years to admit I do not snore - he does (which I already knew).....his snoring was waking him up at night and he thought it was me....still cracks me up!
So - make it special - I have some dedicated book shelves for my daily readers and I love candles, so have several of those hanging around. We have rose bushes so I try to cut fresh roses when in bloom to brighten up the home and of course, my lovely friend Layla has her bed in my special room!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
It sounds lovely, Bethany. I did the same thing when things got bad at home. It was a great creative project to pick a color scheme, buy some storage baskets for my clothes, put up paintings and things that made me feel both peaceful and strong. It helped save my sanity. I love how you are taking the energy from a disruptive experience and turning it to a positive direction. Sleep is so important ... have a great time feathering your nest!
