The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Hi everyone. New member here. My Wife has been struggling with alcoholism for about 4 years now. She did a 30 day inpatient 4 years ago and has been going off and on to AA meetings. She just got caught at work (medical field)stealing meds and using them at work. Ive been told shes done this for about a year. Im at my wits end. Just lost. Ive told her that my first priority is to get her some help. After that, im really thinking about moving out. I have 1 daughter that is mine and 2 step children. My step kids have an abusive alcoholic father and now a alcoholic/drug abuser mother. I am the only solid parent in their lives. Thats what makes this so difficult. My Wife is such a good loving person when she is not under the influence. I love her and want to help her seek help. but I also want to leave and rebuild my life.
Welcome to Miracles in Progress So happy that you reached out and connected. I do so understand the pain of which you speak and have been there myself.
Alcoholism is is chronic, progressive disease that can be arrested but never cured. We who live with the disease become negatively affected to the extend that we too need a recovery program in order to regain our ability to make healthy decisions for ourselves and relearn how to keep a healthy focus on our own well being and life.
Alanon is that program. Face to face meetings are held in most communities and the hot line number is in the white pages. I urge yuu to attend and to keep coming back here as well .
Welcome paintballer to MIP - glad you found us and glad that you shared. As Betty suggests, this is a progressive disease, and is also considered a family disease. Most/all who live with this disease are affected in some way, and also need support and recovery. My best suggestion is for you to attend local meetings and find support from others who have walked a mile in your shoes.
You are not alone and there is help and hope! Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Welcome paintballer sorry to hear about your
Situation. Attending alanon face to face meetings
Will help you on your own path to recovery.
Alanon is about us getting better so we can heal
And grow. We learn about the disease of alcoholism
And healthy tools such as loving detachment, Healthy
boundaries, stay on our side of the street, Staying in
our own hula hoop plus much more.
There are three daily readers you can purchase and
generally a lending library at most meetings.
In alanon the thinking is to attend meetings for 6-12
Months Before making any major changes. That is so we
are Working our program and as we should begin to have
some clarity. With our new changed behaviors maybe it
Will improve the situation.
Alanon is really all about you not your qualifier and it
Is strongly recommended if one is attending AA the other
Attends Alanon so you both are working on your own
recovery.
