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My hope is that all of you are doing well. I haven't been here for a few days, and wanted to check in.
First, I want to say thank you to any of you who might have lost a loved one as they served our country. A young man I used to babysit, who grew up in my neighborhood, was kidded in Afghanistan two years ago. I personally feel the enormous loss, and gratitude, towards him, and his family. He was an admirable and generous young man who was taken way too soon.
The second thing I am grateful for today is that my AH passed an enormous test of his sobriety. On Friday night, he was coaching his summer baseball team. I was really concerned about him going into this season. The guy he coaches with is someone he has known for over 30 years. He is a great coach, and a wonderful friend, but he love to drink beer after games. AH asked me if I would go to the game and keep score. In fact, he would like me to keep score for as many games as possible. After the game, his friend asked us to go for pizza. I prayed and prayed as we drove to the pizza shop, knowing that the two of them have been eating pizza and drinking pitchers of beers in this same place for decades.
Our friend reached the shop before we did. When we walked in, he told us that he ordered a large pizza and a pitcher of beer. My H said, "I'm sorry, Big Guy, I thought I told you that I stopped drinking". His friend looked at him incredulously and said "I thought you were kidding about that". My H said, "Nope. It's a life change". I saw his friend look at him warily, but then he smiled and said, "Wow. I give you a lot of credit".
That's when I started to breathe again. I smiled at my H. I said a prayer of thanks, and that was it. I didn't say a word to my AH about it. I figured that I needed to keep my elations to myself and just pretend like it wasn't a big deal.
The next day, we stopped to eat after a double header, and his friend ordered iced tea. :) So, today, I am feeling extremely grateful. It has been 8 weeks since my AH has had a drink. Thank you, God!
Lovely share sweetness - the power of recovery is awesome and miraculous!! Here's to one more day for all of us in recovery!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
