The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for May 29th speaks about the two huge stumbling blocks of fear and worry. The reading points out that these painful feelings can alter our perceptions until we lose all sense of reality. Many focuses on the future and this causes unrealistic worry.If we can learn to stay in the present, living one day, one moment at a time we can take positive steps toward working off the effects of any issue..
The reading points out that many of us try to anticipate all disastrous outcomes,so that we could be prepared for any emergency. Al-Anon teaches us to trust that a Higher Power is with us at all times and that by "anticipating", we lose touch with what is happening now and so see the world as a threatening place..
As we grow in faith, self-esteem and trust in HP we become capable of doing for ourselves and taking appropriate actions in situations that once baffled us .
The quote is from Louisa May; "I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship."
Thank you alanon for providing me with the anchor and the tools to sail even on rough seas
Thank you for sharing this page, Betty; it is so strong, one of my favorites. When conducting an inventory, I often am able to trace my character defects to fear as a root cause. Fear is nasty, and if I allow it to take root I inevitably am influenced to thoughts and actions that are often worse than that which I feared.
Lately, I have been focusing effort on the program guidance to take one day at a time, and I am having great success in reducing my fear. I realized that I disguised much of my fear dealing with future issues as being "responsible" and "being prepared"...honesty calls for me to admit I am not trusting my higher power, am taking on unnecessary burdens, and need to rework Step 1.
Great reminder, thank you for your service
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
I agree Paul I did not even know that i was fearful until I honestly worked my 4 th Step. It appears I changed all my fear into anger and blamed others for what was going on Now I can look at fear, own it call on HP for Courage and act. What a gift all around.
I appreciate your honesty. Have a lovely day.
Don't worry be happy! I feel that worry is like rocking in a rocking chair you go back & forth & don't get anywhere. I think that is quoted in C2C . I like that one. I am grateful that somethings can be just concern & I stand by it.
Thanks Betty for this very important reading.
Thank you Betty for today's C2C, your ESH and your service.....today's reading means a bit more each time I read it - I assume it's because as time goes on, all that I've learned becomes more of a part of me, my behaviors, choices, etc. I too did not know that fear was the basis for most of my values, thoughts, actions and deeds until I truly took an in-depth and honest assessment/inventory during the steps.
I have a lovely aunt who used to say, "If you are working, you are not praying." I rolled my eyes at this for ever and ever, and as I worked the steps, the meaning became more special for me as well as how true it is. She's now gone, but when my mind begins to project and worry, this flies into my brain and brings me a smile now. I can truly be instantly reminded that it's not for me to worry about - it's in God's hands and I just have to give it to him and leave it there - no matter what it is.
Thanks Paul for your share too - I'm always inspired by what you share! I also truly appreciate your coverage while I was away!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
