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My progress is working slowly on me ,I'm still not self motivated as I should be it takes someone making me mad or being excited about something that gets me motivated ,I guess I could say that I'm still looking outwards for motivaters ,it's good I'm actually admitting it to myself and recognising it ,I do need to be self motivated ,it's like it takes a lot out of me to get motivated......anyways thanks for being here for me.....hugs..LU ....I hope this makes sense .
Lu in order for me to become self motivated I needed to make the decision that it was my responsibiliity to design my day in a fashion I would like it to see it develop. I made an outline of goals I wanted to accomplish each day and then proceeded to cross each item off the list when done
In the beginning they were very simple such as read ODAT, exercise for 10 minutes, make beds, do dishes, cook, shop go to meetings , go for coffee with friend. This worked and I became very self motivated. I can now accomplish a great deal in a day and I still make my lists.
Committing a task to a friend each day works as well.
My motivation is a result of my clear lucid memory of what it was like before I found the program. I remember what it looked like, sounded like, felt like, acted like and also the program promise that if I did not have a program of recovery to work on a daily basis with the power greater than myself and a wide fellowship I would relapse and it would get worse. I couldn't imagine it getting worse and accepted still that I didn't know what others before me did...I am motivated to be "all in". Keep coming back; it works when you work it....((((hugs))))
I heard a long time ago that I can not think my way to right action, but I can act my way to right thinking. So - when my motivation appears to be less than preferred, this often pops in my brain. I change because of what I do differently - it's all about action. Reading, sharing, writing, praying, meditating, step work, etc. = action with thought.
Hope this helps LU. Remember that we all have our own pace of action too.....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
