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here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for May 8 th talks about the phrase," Yes but."
The reading points out that we don't have to like reality however we do have to accept it for what it is. Your day is too precious to waste by wishing it away in fantasy and day dreams. The reading points out that if we I spend our time wishing things were different serenity is lost.
We are responsible for changing what we can and to let go of the rest.
Just for today we can love ourselves enough to give up the struggle over something that is and that we are not able to change
The quote is from Ovid, "by yielding you may obtain victory"
I am so pleased that program has given me the tools to stay in the reality of
the present moment and in the day. Experiencing whatever is going on is a gift I give to myself and my life.
Thank you Betty for the daily, your ESH and your service. Today's reading is spot on for me - there is much about the world, people, things around me that I can not fix or control. But - hope comes in learning that I can change me - how I feel, how I am and how I do what I do. I needed an attitude adjustment and am starting my day over - I guess this means I get to shorten Mother's Day - yay!!!
I am so grateful that at my most vulnerable times, HP provides to me that which I need to see things differently and usually more clearly. And - I do not like what's going on around me at all, but with the help of this program and HP, I can work to accept it - just for today.
Happy Mother's Day back @ ya Betty!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks betty .. guess for me this reads .. keep moving on the 4th step an Stop trying to change it or come up with the solution .. guess it really is as simple as 'see it 'say it 'leave it alone .. 'just admit it .. hmmph .. i want to Fix it .. (my feelings an confusion about it) grr
definitely needed to read this & Happy Mother's Day in Return
Strong page, Betty, thank you so much for sharing. I realize that, for some, Mother's Day brings feelings and emotions other than happiness, so for those and to all, I wish peace.
All three Readers (ODAT, C2C, Hope) had great messages today that highlighted the choice that we face everyday: Accept our powerlessness, let go of the rest to make room for peace and serenity, or, maintain a tight grip on past pain and future fear for the hollow satisfaction of being 'right'.
I faced opportunities this weekend where I fell into old tendencies and chose the latter. I was quickly reminded of how unpleasant it is for everyone, and what an incredibly empty feeling it is to punish someone who is already down due to the disease. I am so grateful for the wisdom of the program that teaches a much better way, and for the daily reminders that redirect me towards better choices...and serenity...
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
& Happy Mother's Day in Return