The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Our business meetings are once per month and are scheduled to start promptly @ 1pm. The follow our weekly meeting which starts at noon. The regular meeting is scheduled to go for one hour (weekly) and the business meeting is scheduled to go for 15 minutes (monthly). We do our absolute best to start on time but we've also done a bit of greeting before the regular meeting.
So - as much as I also enjoy seeing others, socializing, giving hugs, etc. I am one who likes things on time. Those who want can talk, visit, hug, etc. after the meeting which happens for those who arrive at start time/close to start time.
I don't consider wanting a meeting to start on time as controlling. I also am flexible enough that if it starts a few minutes late because of visiting, it's OK. Starting 15 minutes late would put me over the edge and if it happened consistently, I would either stop attending business meetings or I would show up late for them.
That's just me - I'm kind of a Type A person though so ... may view this different than others. Our meetings and business meetings are very structured. I am OK with this as it keeps us focused on why we are together. We have a pot luck about every 2 months which is free visiting time and great for fellowship and morale. There is socializing before and after our meetings by some, but not by all - some are on lunch hour from work...so - it's not always easy to meet everyone's needs/wants which is why I prefer the structure...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank You For your reply IAH, She rubs me The wrong way. She is like a steam roller. Are You serious 15 minute business mtgs on the Hour. We do not dilly dally yet no timer is on.
We have had so many controlling People that ran every thing it is nice just To be natural, normal and relaxed. I dont see The big rush.
Most will not even stay for The business meeting we try to encourage them to.
We are a small group 6-20 in the country and
yes if board members needed to get back to
work its understandable a time constraint.
i guess i need a break :)
(((( hugs))))
-- Edited by Mirandac on Friday 6th of May 2016 04:37:01 PM
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 01:24:49 PM
Mirandac-- My group starts promptly and has a 10 minute business break half way through. We hold an official business meeting once a month at that break time which is announced a few weeks before and topic selected. That business meeting last for 20 minutes. People are encouraged to connect after the meeting.
Thanks Betty its something to think about, We Copy a very healthy meeting now. We Should find out how they do that too.
We have a step mtg and business mtg On the first friday, we decided to stay with That and not change that format.
I just love seeing the growth, the new members Coming back and them being welcomed and Encouraged. Its does as much for me as it does Them or someone in pain willing to share and Keep coming back.
I do plan on calling the member tonight and Offer amends. Since starting recovery i am not Always the best around controlling people. I stay Clear of them if i have a choice wether business or pleasure.
i just did call her and gave her an amends she
was all right about it.
I know everyone is different on these issues i have
served on a library board for 5 years and we built a
new library. That was enough for me.
thank you for your love and support
(((((( betty))))
-- Edited by Mirandac on Friday 6th of May 2016 07:43:26 PM
