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ive never been on a airplane in my 52 yrs of life,and lived here in Mississippi most of my life,my sil joined the airforce 8 yrs ago he and my daughter been doing the over seas only ,just the way they chose to do it,my only grand babies travel with them,my daughter has several times over the years to get me on the plane and make a visit she takes care of everything and the ticket round trip,well id back out every time along with tears of sadness all because of my anxiety ,I'm got it bad ,I take meds for it but that don't always help,and that trip is horrifying to think of,but daughter is kicking it all up again for me to come there,so I told her I'd need some time,time to work more of my steps and program,I don't need to get over in okinanaw Japan and wig out on her,I wouldn't be any good to any body then,and no way to get home that quick,14 hours in the air from Atlanta,ga to HongKong ,then from there onto okinawae is another 2 hour flight,and I'm missing some more hours somewhere cause it's 26 hours total from my home to there in Japan,but I'm going for a real purpose in mind to get to see my children,my grandsons oh my now that's a treat there,but just getting over there with my anxiety and nerves. Makes it worse.anyway had to fill my people which are y'all in on my trip and daughter said it would be several mths ahead before Id go so I got time to prepare myself ,and I should be good on my step work and all.............hugs lu
It sounds amazing! I get anxiety too, mostly social, and something I heard once which helped me a bit was, sometimes when I feel scared I also feel excited. I hope you can let lots of the excitement in because it really does sound like a wonderful opportunity! And I reckon you deserve some good wholesome fun. (((Lookingup)))
Sounds like a good plan LU. I had similar anxiety years ago and my BIL would make all my trip arrangements. He simply gave me the time ,date and airport of departure. I would note my calendar and then "Forget about it".
Since I check my calendar daily, I would see the trip on the calendar a few days before, prepare all I needed and simply show up. It worked for me. Today my anxiety is gone.
Keep working your Steps. Remember Step 11 suggests that we pray for HP's will and the power to carry it out will be given to us. I am sure this trip is an HP design
At one point I developed a really huge fear of flying. I had to go someplace 12 hours by plane and there was no getting out of it. So I got on and we took off and I was petrified and I sat there petrified, and sat there petrified, and sat there petrified... it was really boring ... after a while I noticed that I had forgotten to be petrified for a while ... then I was alert and petrified some more. Then it was so boring I forgot to be petrified again. Back on alert! Petrified! Then I nodded off ... woke up - thought about being petrified, decided it was too boring. I finished the rest of the flight in a state of bored calm. I haven't been afraid of flying since.
The truth is that after living with an alcoholic, flying is a walk in the park. You're in the care of sane, reasonable people who have years of training and know what they're doing. Everything is entirely predictable and the worst danger is that they will run out of your choice of entrée before the flight attendant gets to you. (This is on international flights. On domestic flights they don't serve free food any more, so the worst danger is that you will have to buy a snack box.)
I don't mean to be dismissive of your fears. But for those of us who've lived with alcoholism, other things are a lot simpler!
That's really exciting news! So, you have a wonderful new adventure ahead. It's great that you have a little time to get ready. You can do some searches online of places and things that might interest you there. Thanks for sharing your wonderful news! (((hugs)) TT
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WOW ,is all I know to say here at all these wonderful posts just what I needed to hear ,and mattie being petrified is so gonna be me,and I'm gonna mark my calendar cause my sweet daughter will have every inch of my way planned to the T,so all I do is grab my bags she said I didn't need much but 2 weeks I'll need something,I'm thinking a lot.ill be looking for the nearest stranger to cling onto I'm sure if they will let me,lol,I so hope I'm not that bad but never ever flying in my life all alone on huge airplanes that I've never saw except on tv,it's gonna be an adventure for sure but ohhh the love and hugs that awaits me there with my gbabies and daughter,I know I can and will do this and yes I'm sure it's in gods plans for me I'm about to get to step 3 it's going at a snails pace but oh well If that's what it takes and it's working I'm sure by the time I'm finished with step 12 ,I'll be packing me a bag and happily singing my way onto that plan no worries or anxieties ......thanks for all this esh,Ve got happy tears watering eyes right now ,,,,,words can't even begin to express the love I have for each and everyone of you and mip,,,,,,,many hugs,,,Lu
