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Life has been busy .. busy is good.. I have found you tube "hope and Healing 24/7" from alanon seminars... Oh my .. do I highly recommend them!
I have the past year been doing so much personal growth .. my new "addiction" is audio books (being careful with this)... I came across these seminar recordings when looking for informstion on raising a child from strong alcoholic roots .. I see "isms" developing in my ten year old...I had him in counciling and he can "fool" the best of em with good behaviour. He told me I was wasting my money because he seems fine and has no prob talking to him just like he talks to me..
fastforward a year... the "isms" have come and gone over and over... (I recognize, "isms" because alanon helps me with my "isms") but with his birth mother dead at 25 from OD and his birth father in prison after being kicked out his 6th rehab in 3 years.. the isms my son has, even coming and going... I hope can be addressed.. I can work my program and he hears a lot of the things taught in alanon, mind your business, responsible for all your decisions/choices.. My new favorite thing to say (since he's hitting peer pressure, and kid to kid meanness) Just because someone says your bad doesn't mean its true... What they say doesn't mean its the truth. OOOOPPPS .. making a short story long ... (one of my weakness')
where can I turn to help for dealing with the "isms" He refuses to go to alateen .. and the closest one we have is 2 hours one way so not easy to access.. I do have an appt with another psychiatrist but more for behavioral ..
I just wanted to see if anyone had any books or experience with young child showing early signs .... I cant mind my business on this .. Im trying to raise him ....??!! and want to know how to teach him before he goes through so much pain IF it can be avoided
-- Edited by sweeetr on Monday 25th of April 2016 12:18:14 PM
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Aloha Sister and happy to see you dropped in again. The Alateens I worked with didn't have a "No" option. They we take to their first group and dropped off and then most always wanted to attend groups thereafter. Take his No option away from him without reward and see what he does the next time. Yeppers they can play you as good as any alky can. Teens are powerful recovery workers once you get them in the room and then turn away for your own meeting. Good luck (((hugs)))
Hey sweetr - I've got no experience in this area but wanted to welcome you back! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
