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A/sis has been on a war path I told her to move out again to no avail except that I couldn't make her leave cause she got mail coming here with her name on it she done that soon after moving in she put in for a change of address and then her mail filled up my mailbox wished I'd told her to get her a p.o. Box now to late right now then her electric bill and water bill came in and I handed them to her thinking she was gonna pay them she ditched them both in garbage,lots of redflags started popping up with her,tonight she threatening me with she will have my what little assistance I get taken away from me.i just told her that all I had to do is make one phone call to my landlord and he would have her out of here,she queitened down a bit,still I could hear her through the walls,I blew my cool with her.i didn't do good working my tools that time,I'm sure this will be continued in the morning as its kinda late here ,I'm not taking being threatened ,name calling,just drama in general in my home of in my life,hopefully I can cope with this situation better in the morning after a good nights sleep.been a long day......hugs lu
I'm sorry to hear there is chaos in your house. You know that if your sister moves out, you can put in a change of address online at the post office, or you can mark the envelopes "Not at this address" and give them back to the post office. The fact that she is getting mail at your house does not mean you are stuck with her living there if you don't want her to. Take good care of yourself.
I so apriciate this esh,thanks Betty and mattie I've got chaos and drama going on here in my home for sure ,it's insane ,she plotted all this before she moved in,it was her plans in order to keep a place to live and continue useing,she hid it all to well for such a long time,I'm not gonna have all her drama to ruin my morning,or days .theres a plenty for me to do as I can work on and enjoy my day .....hugs lu
My mother-in-law had a similar plan at one point. Honestly I think it helped AH see some of her actions and values in a way he had tried to ignore up until then. She was very manipulative and ugly, while keeping a sweet demeanor and playing victim. He had agreed to have her house sit while we went on a trip, but she moved her things in and filed a change of address and told lies about AH having agreed to that arrangement. AH now has very low contact with her, and is starting to see the alcoholism in his family for what it is. It is sad to me that both she and AH were so caught up in the many faces of this disease, and it happened the way it did. There was a lot of pain and confusion caused by lack of communication and lack of healthy boundaries. But that was their reality at that point and it is up to each of them as adults to decide how to move forward. I did my best to stay out of things, let the two of them figure it out, but oh man I did not want her in my house and I made that clear to both of them.
It was also an incident that helped propel me closer to alanon. The chaos was no longer acceptable for me and I started looking for better coping mechanisms.
