I need advice. I've been with my boyfriend for about 11 months now and we've been living together for about 9 months. I'm not a drinker at all and when I met him, he was like, "Yeah, you're not a drinker and I don't want to drink anymore." 

He doesn't drink all the time, but when he does, I get concerned about certain things. I don't know if it's just me because I do get concerned easily, since there have been a lot of family things where family members got in trouble or almost died because of drugs or alcohol.

But then again, I don't think he has a real idea of a healthy picture of drinking either. His parents were both alcoholics and fed their kids beer as young as six years old.

So here are some of my concerns. When there's beer around, he can't seem to not drink it. If someone brings over beer or if he buys it, he has to drink it all right away, even if there's a lot of it. Also, he drinks to relieve stress. And he sometimes drinks to punish me. If he's convinced I've done something wrong, he'll go out to buy beer to punish me. (It seems like that and then he's even admitted it before.) And then he's broken promises he's made to himself related to drinking several times since I've been dating him. He brushes it off and says they weren't reasonable goals. And then he'll say he's stopping because a health scare happens and then does very temporarily and then starts again. He told me his liver hurt him right before I met him, but he thinks it's fine because his liver doesn't hurt him now. And then when I bring up his drinking, he either says I'm overacting and because I don't drink, I don't understand, or because of my past family situations, I'm overacting, or he freaks out and gets angry. He's had situations where the drinking has been very disruptive. He called a woman in another country and starting yelling at her on Skype at four in the morning. We live a tiny apartment with a hollow door, so I couldn't sleep. I asked him to keep it down, but he didn't, so I went outside to sleep. He finally came out and apologized after about a half hour. In other situations, he tried to get me to drive in an unsafe situation, I felt like I had to stay up late and babysit him to make sure he hadn't passed out from alcohol poisoning because he was very, very cold, and, and he couldn't walk several feet to our apartment without falling over, and he frequently gets drunk to the point where when he talks he doesn't make any sense. 

I don't know what to do. The relationship is very good in pretty much every other way. He's kind and generous and caring. And we're taking next steps, but this part always freaks me out. And I don't know if I'm being overly paranoid or not. I mean, right here, I'm talking about all of the worst parts. He's never driven drunk. He's still responsible and does well at work. He doesn't drink all the time. He usually drinks about once or twice a week and he's gone for over a week without a drink.

All his friends are heavy drinkers, so it's hard.

Now, we're talking about buying a house, marriage, kids, etc. I told him I need to see some control over his drinking or I don't feel comfortable bringing a kid into the world. He says he has control over it and he just likes drinking. But he says he only likes drinking certain beers and he still seems to have to drink even when the only beer there is the beer he says is "crap" or when it's wine, which he says he doesn't like.

Thanks for listening.