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J got fired today. And, it had nothing to do with his drinking. He has not once been drunk at work. I know he hasn't because I was taking him and picking him up.
Small towns are a pain. He worked at Wal*Mart. My ex-husband's sister works there. She said something about him to management and they fired him. No idea what was said because Missouri is a Right to Work state so they don't have to give him a reason.
I know it probably sounds like I'm making excuses for him, but I'm really not. He hasn't been missing work and he hasn't been drinking at work and he has been doing his job.
It's also quite a coincidence that this happened a week after we ran into my ex-husband at a skating rink and he saw us together for the first time.
He's really beating himself up over it, but honestly, this is more my fault than his. Honestly, neither of us are to blame but MY ex-sister-in-law caused the problem.
And, now I have to brag on him. He is still sober. He is not drinking. He is incredibly angry and upset, but he's not drinking. And I'm more proud of him than I can say.
Thanks. Honestly, though, I'm finding it really hard to be upset about him getting fired because I'm so overjoyed that he didn't drink. That's the most important thing. He spent the entire afternoon and evening with me, then went home. I just talked to him on the phone and he's still sober. There's a tiny change in his voice when he drinks. A lot of people don't even notice, but I do.
The really disappointing thing is this: I've been thinking about a time period for him to come home and I suggested that he come back in a month if he's stayed sober and stuck to a program the whole time. He was on board with it until this happened. Now he says he won't come back unless he's found another job by then because he won't live with me if he is unable to contribute financially. I respect that. I just don't like it. I miss him.
