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This morning was not awesome. My son gets collected for his autism intervention class twice a week. I have had some issues with the driver, who is rude and not the sharpest tool in the shed. This morning daughter had a dental appointment. I made the time for 9.30. Yesterday the driver was here at 8.50. Her verbal commitment was to9am. Usually shshe's here between 9 and 9.15. Today at 925 I advised my daughter had a dental appointmnet and waz she far away. She replied 5 minutes later saying shed be another 15 minutes. I responded with i wish youd told me earlier. Fortunately the dentist is on our street and a typical aussie with a no worries to lateness attitude. Anyway the driver rang and was full of bs and I told her she was rude, unprofessional and full of shite. I was not very calm or dignified. On other occasions she has refused to come into my driveway which is so wide I've had a full size flatbed tow truck reverse into it, and also met my request to help son with his school bag with a that's not part of my job description. So I lost my serenity to this person this morning and jusf needed to vent.
(((a4l))) - so sorry.....it happens, we just have to own (which you have) and move on. I get really excited when others waste my time so can totally understand where you are coming from. Hang in there - sending positive thoughts and prayers for you all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thankyou IAM. Yes, excited is a good word, lol! It was a time issue for me. I think it got to me more because over the last 3 years, I seem to encounter this perception that my time is no big deal. Still. What others think of me is not my problem except when it is. I will complain to the education department next time and ignore this person in future.
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 12:01:50 PM
((A41)) Thanks for your honesty. In this situation, I do believe you showed a great deal of restraint. Your time is valuable ,so is it possible to contact the bus company and register a complaint?
Positive thoughts on the way.
I hear you .... I feel that way at times with many in my life. Of course, I had to learn in this program that just because I am a Type A personality and I was taught to be prompt/on-time by my parents - others were not perhaps taught the same things. What appears to me to be just basic kindness, manners and respect to others is just not seem the same way!!!
That was a hard lesson, however when I can accept that we are all different, were all taught different and prioritize differently, it gave me some peace of mind.
If you are like me, you showed a ton of restraint! Before the program, I also would let something like this affect my entire day! I now know it's a snapshot in time, and I can decide how long to let it affect me.
(((Hugs))) - you have your hands full - I am sure any change (unexpected) can throw your schedule off. I would also give the feedback to those who need to know - if this person is late for you, there are others also possibly affected.
Make it a great day!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
((((a4l))))...put this one in the win column because for me anything that puts me back into the practice of my recovery is a win/win situation...it isn't a fluke now...HP has chosen a person, place and time for practice of the program...how great is that?!! ((()))
Thank you all for your esh. I have decided to put in a formal complaint. I don't want to really, but there are a lot of things off about this lady. The kids are all special needs and most can't talk. When my son was dropped off, another little boy had his arms out of his carseat and she's
Always on her phone. Another time she let this same boy wander around the grounds putting dirt in his mouth and seemed disgusted rather than responsible. I did actually question whether this was the right person for special needs kids. When I thought about making a complaint, i instantly told myself I was making a bigger deal out of something than I should. But honestly, our autistic and disabled kids are vulnerable and I don't think its a huge ask to ask a driver what time they would like your child to be ready by. I also think she's a crafty type to have stayed in this job with such a poor attitude for eight years and making my concerns formally known is wise. Thanks all!
I think that there are times I forget that I have the basic right to be treated like a human being and the responsibility to treat others with the same respect.
I am soooo glad you are taking a stand. My sponsor has always said to me is this a principle or a personality and this is a principle to me at least .. all children should be treated with care and consideration, in this case this these children were not. One of my bff's was in child care for 25 years she said dealing with the State was the worst. It was not the kids it was usually the parents as well as the case workers (usually it was the system).
Sometimes it is ok to say NO.
Hugs S :)
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I too agree - it sounds like the right next step to take!! (((A4L)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Luckily I had all of you to help me with this. I just got an email from the teacher and was able to forward her a copy of the complaint so that the drivers skewed version isn't taken for granted truth! Experience was prodding me to deal with this person because I know her type, but it was this fellowship that gave me the courage and wisdom. I really do have a tendency to retreat into lala eveything will be fine if I just close my eyes mentality. Ha! Like that ever worked.
Good Work Edna validating ourselvesa nd saing what we mean without saying it mean is a true gift of working this program , No more making ourselves invisible.
WTG Edna - I love that feeling when we are troubled, process 'it', make a decision, take action and then - Freedom.......Great for you and it's out of your hands now - HP has got this!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
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