Al-Anon Family Group

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
Post Info TOPIC: It finally happened


Veteran Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 60
Date:
It finally happened


he got high. I could tell as soon as he answered the phone. so of course I had to prove it by FaceTiming him. I can always tell even just a little. It's that fake pot chemical crap. He lied- he's fine just tired yada yada yada. I just hung up. 

 

I face timed back. I asked him why he was lying when we agreed to be honest. He admitted it, I asked him why, he didn't know but at least he didn't blame it on me, lol. 

 

So so I told him it was dofficult for me to be around him high and that it sours my attitude and i treat the kids poorly. I was trying to "al Anon" by thinking about what I needed and kindly put up a boundary. So he was gone when I got home and then in true codependent form I called him to take my boundary back and tell him to come home and his phone is cut off and goes straight to voicemail which of course makes ME LOSE MY EFFING MIND! 

 

He he eventually texts me and says he will come home when he's ready. I hate myself. I hate the disease. I hate my life. And yet I love him. This is stupid and I'm pathetic. I can't live like this. 



__________________
a4l


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1396
Date:

Kspec I can relate. Very much to the going to voicemail makes me lose my mind. I found it better to nip myself in the bud. Phone or email a friend . Go for a walk. Recite the serenity prayer. Hit the mip chat room. Once I open the door to crazytown even a crack I'm all aboard. Keep coming back. Hugs.

__________________


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 17196
Date:

((Kspec))) I agree wiht A41-- Great tools to use to back out of "crazytown"
Positive thoughts and prayers on the way. You are not alone

__________________
Betty

THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

Talmud


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 11569
Date:

(((Kspec))) - me three - positive thoughts and prayers are on the way!!

__________________

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 



Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 339
Date:

Been there and I hated it. Thoughts and prayers to you. This disease sucks.

__________________


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 13696
Date:

 

 

 

"I hate myself. I hate the disease. I hate my life. And yet I love him. This is stupid and I'm pathetic. I can't live like this."  This is exactly the voice of the disease even to the addict...."And yet I love it, her, him".  Addicts and Alcoholics very often speak the same way in reference to the addiction which tears up their lives also.  I was so super addicted to my alcoholic/addict and felt, thought and acted the very same way.   I needed a power greater than it all to help me get away from it and the program provided all the higher power I need....Thank you HP.   ((((hugs)))) smile

 



__________________


Veteran Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 60
Date:

He still hasn't come home.

I did phone al Anon meetings last night and today on my lunch break.

__________________


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 130
Date:

I don't have any advice to offer. I'm trying to figure things out myself. But if you ever want to talk or vent, I'm a good listener. I'm new to this site - I don't know if you can send messages, but if you can, feel free to message me.

__________________
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.