Its been a nightmare around the house since Sunday when the ABF started drinking after church. I went to my basement suite in the house and let him be. I heard him walking around the house all day and night and talking to himself non stop. I listened to music and TV downstairs to drown his voice out. It worked. I heard him getting mad, really mad and glass breaking. Sure enough he broke the glass door going to the basement from the kitchen. I just left it and did not do anything about the broken glass. He came down stairs a few times and tried to pick a fight with me. I ignored him. He accused me of taking his wallet and I tried to get me to react. I did not. He finally grabbed my purse, my arm and I had to try and get it away from him and ran out the back door, with no shoes, just socks and ran out the back door. He was right behind me but I managed to get up the stairs and out the door before he could grab me. I called the police and they responded. They called me back later and said I needed to leave the house and that he is drunk and has no place to go. They said they talked with him and you have a sister here in the city, and to go there. They said he has no family here and would have to go to the men's shelter, if they remove him from the house. They said since he is drunk and I am not, its best if I leave. I said I would and I got myself a hotel room for the night. The police said they saw the broken glass and see that he is the problem and have documented the incident. The police said, the next time they get a call they will know its him and more intrusive actions will be taken. I spend the night at a hotel room and it was awesome. I returned to the house the next day and the place was upside down. He started cleaning it. I kept saying to myself, i did not cause this, I can not cure this, can not control it. He was very hung over and I felt no pity for him what so ever. I did start looking for a place to live and checked out prices. I told him, I do not need to live here with you, I have my own money and I can move. I said you can live here alone and manage financially on your own. He can not manage financially on his own with a 5 bedroom house and he knows it. He has lost his job now and his drivers license again. He received a call from his union and he is banned from his job site for 60 days due to drinking. I reminded him he is one step away from the streets and he needs to get his act together. I saw a desperate man. He says all the good things now, I will go to AA meetings, I will quit drinking ,I did it before for 13 years. I can do it again. I just looked at him and thought, we will see. I do not have any expectations he will sober up. I just have to keep looking after me and detaching, detaching, detaching and let him suffer the consequences of his actions. I have lost all emotional feelings toward him and I am focused on me and me only right now. I am getting stronger daily and I feel hopeful for today! Thanks to this board for helping me see the light and not be afraid. I can do it! Thanks for letting me share!