The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have Bipolar 2 and in the middle of medication changes. In the middle of this we may lose our home and move from Washington to Tucson. I told my husband he has to go to marriage counseling or I may not go with him. In the past two days I allowed him to wipe me out with his emotional abuse. I feel so tired and done. I've been working on myself for almost 25 years and he has never gotten any help. He has agreed to go to marriage counseling. It's like all my Alanon tools have gone out the window. It makes it harder when you have a mental illness to deal with also.
Please help. I'm in victim mode and don't like it.
lucymae - so sorry for current pain and stress. I can't relate to the MH aspect other than experience in loved ones. I know that stress can be a huge trigger for them, and they work hard to avoid it. I also know that med. changes are a challenge all to themselves so my best suggestion is to be as gentle with you as possible. Do you have local program friends? When the chaos at my house gets to me, I will call one for a discussion or for a meet up. Just a change of scenery with someone who understands can give me a bit of peace.
My second suggestion is to do anything you can to organize your program tools so they are ready for you to use when you choose to. You don't have to decide about moving today, just take care of you today.
(((Hugs))) - we are here for you.
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
