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I just had an angry outburst at my a ,it like came out like an reflex violent words I'd never use ,as I grab my Ctc and read upon anger I've come to realize that easy does it is a good tool that I can use before I act out or count to 10 or 100 with deep breaths ,my abf and a sis were fixxing to jump in her car and leave to go get their what he calls their medicine,they both take subutech and buy it from abother person,which they minimize it by calling it their medicine,and that I have a dr to get my meds,my meds being my cholesterol melds and kolonapins which I take only as directed if needed only which I don't take very much only in an anxiety sit.anyway I needed to post this cause I'm not keeping my serenity by outburst ,I lose my serenity so many times then look at myself afterwards not knowing what to do feeling bad,when my a also fought back with angry words raising our voices ,just don't get it,it is a struggle everyday,but it's what throws me further into my recovery to.......hugs lu
Thanks for sharing LU Anger is indeed very destructive to our mental and physical health. Reacting to insanity was also my "normal" response until alanon gave me tools to Stop REACTING and I learned to respond in a better and more constructive manner.
I see you understand this and know that taking a deep breath, walking away, saying a slogan or serenity prayer will interrupt this automatic reaction and give us a moment pause to respond to the insanity in a better fashion.
Remembering that your serenity is a wonderful gift and that you are not willing to sacrifice it for anyone or anything helps as well. Keep on using your tools it is a process.
Thank you mrs Betty for your wisdom and insight into this,and yes my sanity and keeping my sanity is more important than the insanity of this desease,being gentle with myself for the day,and living in the moment and easy does it if needed ,helps a lot,I'm only human and am entitled to my mistakes of acting out in such a way that's destructive,cause it got me no where but bad feelings about myself and looking at me don't look so good,so realizing that I acted out of anger and that causing me to lose it ,my power ,my sanity,so putting the focus back unto myself and realizing and admitting to myself what I had done and to let it be a lesson to myself that anger gets me nowhere but makes sit.worser,I've got my program tools now in hand hopefully I will reach for them come a next time ,I'm writing them down on index cards just for a reminder and so I can pull them out when needed in anger sit.cause I do have a lot of anger in me and resentments.......thanks for the Esh......hugs ....lu....(it works if I work it) so I'm gonna work it cause I'm worth it...........
Please do be gentle with yourself, .. while it is never ok to lash out at someone because of unresolved anger it's really important to realize that anger is a perfectly normal reaction to an incredibly unreasonable situation. I know I am an odd duck with how I choose to look at anger in working my own program. Anger is a feeling it's not a fact and working through the steps with a sponsor certainly helps me deal with that residual ick of leftover resentments which most are pretty justifiable based upon the unreasonable situations I was in.
Funny story, .. I will share on a different thread.
Anger is a great motivator of change because it's uncomfortable and anything that creates feelings/memories of painful experiences is not a bad thing. Keep coming back.
Hugs S :)
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