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I'm gonna try and make this long story into a short story if possible,lol,I'm been hanging on to this for days now and it needs to be let out so here it is.....I get a phone call from this woman she is married but slips around on her aged veteran husband she been married to for 4 yrs and she been married 5 or 6 times ,ok,she calls my ph and asks to talk to my abf she says about his court I ? her,she then says how can he my abf ) be her Bf one week then my bf the next week I'm stumped,but feeling dumb and so I tell her that he has been here at my home everynight and day 7 days a week,so then she asks me to put her on speaker ph to ask abf who is he with me or her ,he is speechless so I'm feeling dumber he tells me that he is with me she heard him say that then abf hangs up the phone and takes off to bathroom and locks the door,then next day he gets 2 ph calls from this woman's husband and her daughter abf wouldn't answer them,so then I get a message over my messenger from the daughter of this woman's husband asking me when was the last time my abf had talked to this woman and I told them that she called my ph the night before,this woman had put a live video on her fb of her out in a field threatening to take a bunch of pills to kill herself the law came to her home and took her away somewhere to rehab for help,this mess with her had stopped last year and all was fine then she kicks it up again,my abf denies having anything to do with her,I'm just trying to get some peace of mind over it all,I told him to leave my home but he didn't,,so I'm come here to get it all out or try to out of my mind and just drop it,abf just says she is crazy,things just don't add up , or I'm stupid to the fact one,I feel for her family going through such as that,for she posted her video across her newsfeed for everybody and anybody to see.and I'm still on step one about to get to step 2 ,.....Esh is welcomed,so sorry it turned out to be a long post anyways,I could never do short versions of nothing,lol,.....hugs,I'm living in the moment ,day by day,living with this desease......lu



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My experience has been when this started in my life with my Alcoholic/addict I went my own way which was just so much quieter and saner.  The first step says "We admitted we were powerless and that my life had become unmanageable".  It didn't no any further than that like to suggest giving it another try and another and then one more ad nauseam. Which I did until I did no longer.  Most times I have to do it like others have done it rather than try it alone.   ((((hugs)))) wink



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((LU)) sounds like insanity to me. Keep the focus on your own serenity and Let go and Let God In my thoughts and prayers.

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You don't have to figure this out.  Or engage with it.  It is insanity and that is typical of addicts and alcoholics.  If your BF won't leave the house when you ask, maybe there are legal ways to make him leave.  I would be looking into those if you want him to leave.  If we wait for insane people to start behaving sanely, we will probably be waiting forever....  So we have to be the sane ones.  Fortunately, that comes with lots of rewards.



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Thanks ,oh so much great Esh here,after I had posted this I got to thinking more about it ,that it wasn't so much his drama as it was this woman's drama she has been drama for the past 2 yrs for me,but it wasn't my abf bringing the drama into my home as it was her,abf didn't have nothing much to say or do about it other than hang up on her.so that's the drama that addicts bring into our homes,and I'm sure it won't stop there there will be more diff, kinds of drama to follow,living with 2 a,my hp knows that I'll work harder and stick to my program living in it,than I would not living in it ,all the times I wasn't living with a addict I bounced in and out of my program,never sticking to it like I do now which is a blessing to me helping me see more of what's really going on and the truth of it all.helps me u tangle a lot,,,not making excuses for the a but just acknowledging it,and how to focus on myself......I love y'all,lu

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