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I must say I have come a long way and learned so much since starting this program. I remember how I felt when I first began, scared and hopeless. I was struggling in every area of my life. Now, today as I sit here sharing I find myself completely different. I have moved into my own apartment! Some of you know the struggles I was having before, financially, and the problems with my daughter's boyfriend living there and not working, among other things. I realized that you can also have dysfunctional relationships with family and friends, not just significant others. I Felt like it was time for me to let them go and be on their own and also for me to be on my own. It is so much healthier for all involved. Well, since I moved,my daughter's boyfriend got a good job, because he has to work now, right.Which is healthier for him since most of his time was spent gaming and now he will have to step up to the plate if he wants to live in a home.As for me, I wish I could describe how good this is. My apartment is lovely.They were just remodeled so everything is new.It is a small apartment building, I think only 22 units, it's quiet and it sits on the edge of a golf course. I look out my window and see a beautiful golf course, with little golf carts driving around.Outside of another window is a small pond with ducks. I love it!It is perfect for me. I am learning to be with myself, I am actually reading and relaxing, something I really needed,it's been a rough year.Basically I have learned how to apply a lot of things I have learned in this program. I am making decisions that are healthy and I am avoiding crisis situations, and that is saying a lot.
Wow, sounds like you're doing great. Go you!!
(((Mary)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
(((Mary))) - you sound so good and love how you describe your new place! Keep chasing the peace/serenity - it works well on you!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great share alyce ,avoiding crises situations ,I needed to hear that,thanks for sharing,love hearing how serene and peaceful life is by simply living our recovery.......hugs Lu
