My exAH is a dry drunk, he also has no program, and is pulling away from his higher power. He is now married to a recovering alcoholic and polysubstance abuser. She is also bipolar. Too make a long story short her son did the unforgiveable to my handicapped son who was 16 at the time. Now my ex parenting time has to be when the other child is not around. My extries to involve me in his drama with his wife and that she blows up when he makes arrangements to see his son and he feels that if I would just allow him to have my son in his home with the other boy present he would assure my sons safety and make his wife happy and his marital problems would be fixed. We have had many court sessions and mediations regarding this. Whenever we work out a plan, his wife, goes along until for some reason she gets a wild tangent of a thought and then everything just blows up and we are back to square one. This affects my son deeply and he has to see a therapist for it. Recently, on two separate occasions the wife has blamed me in a together family session because I cant let it go, and blah blah blah. The therapist is fully aware that I have let it go, and I am working with my Ex to try to accommodate an arrangement to ensure my sons safety. After starting here, I came to realize that I am not control of my Ex and his wife thoughts and behaviors and I only have to do what's right for me. I do not have to be involved in their drama. I decided that until my ex and his wife could control their behaviors andI could learn not to react, I was stopping all negotiations and detaching. I have sole custody and my ex has no set visitation. I have now heard from the Court mediator and the therapist all day that he is complaining that I am detaching. Is this normal?