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Started program more than 20 years ago. Husband hated it then. I got pissed at God, left maybe 7 years ago. Now deep in insanity and back. Husband still here... still hates program. Wondering why I stay. Must be a payoff somewhere?
The best thing about being back is that my focus is back on ME. Enough, trying to understand why HE hangs on to old resentments. Why do I hang on to this painful relationship? I'm so reluctant to let go. I keep thinking I'll learn something useful.... after 30 years. I guess I need him to need me, and he's afraid of losing me, so he's bitter and resentful before I even talk about walking out the door, and I'm...what? used to this?. It's truly incredible how we weave habits of being together that can be so destructive and insane.
Aloha Rebounder and welcome home...Love your Avatar!! Looks like family for you from here. So you still haven't been able to change him and are here again to get changed....I love that because the program still works for those who desire to work it and have it. Listening for your ESH. (((((hugs)))))
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
