The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
"My relationship with my AH is so much better now that we are addressing the elephant in the room. You can read my past posts. I first came to al-anon last March/April. I was on the verge of leaving my husband as I just couldn't detach with love and was finding it very hard living with an active A. He found sobriety (thank god) last June and has been doing great. I will say I was surprised at how sick I was. I thought once he got sober everything would be rosy but boy was I wrong. It took me months (and I am still working on this) to regain some of the trust that was lost to this disease. I still find it very easy to slip back into my old ways - getting too much in my head, the urge to search for bottles, trying to smell him to see if he smells like alcohol. Now I just try to examine my motives and see if anything is bothering me. I have also turned to meditation and prayer (something that I had lost for many many years). At times it is tough to trust and I still deal with a lot of resentment but I am so much happier now than I have been in years. Watching my husband interact with our two small kids has been nothing short of amazing. He sees the difference in them as well. I hope that he won't relapse but I need to just focus on myself and know that I will be ok whether he drinks or not. There is hope out there. Best wishes to you."
Inspiring and real.....those are the words that popped forward as I read this.
Hopeful too.....thanks for sharing!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
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