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I've been wanting to ask someone in my group to be my sponsor for a while now. I was just so afraid to ask for help. When I first started there were a few people who approached me and offered to help me and I am grateful to them for doing so. But for some reason or another we just haven't clicked enough that I wanted either of them to be my sponsor. Meanwhile there was someone in my group who has been in the program a long time. Every time she speaks in a meeting she makes me smile and I admire her. So I decided to ask her. And she said yes! I am so relieved because I was nervous about it.
The biggest gift you can give yourself is asking for help. Congrats on taking that first emotional risk and venturing into uncharted territory!!!! Yay you!!!
I feel it is a detriment to go to others and offer sponsorship because asking and admitting I needed help was a huge step in the right direction.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
thanks guys! you know at first I was really unsure about having a sponsor. I just didn't trust anyone. And I thought all I needed was a little bit of al anon once in a while to keep me on track. But as I have been attending every week, and reading more, and doing more growing the more I want to grow and change. You're right I had to take the step to ask for help. I am pleased about it. I used to be an all or nothing kind of person ( I still am at times) but this is a decision I didn't rush into. I am really hopeful it will turn out well.
WTG KT2015 - super news! I am glad you found someone that you feel you can share with and connect with! Enjoy and call.....I asked and then I was still afraid to dial - as Nike says, "Just Do it!." I have learned that it's good to call even when I am good - keeps the channel open for if I get into a real need!
(((Hugs))) - so happy for you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Yaayyy KT...glad for you. I am also making more progress with a sponsor. I felt as happy as you sound when she reached out because she heard I was looking.
It is hard to ask for help because I am the one that helps (so I thought). Almost "helped" my way into a nervous breakdown lol. Still feel weird when I call on her or another member but little by little I am getting used to it.
Cheers for KT ,Sponsors are great to have ,my sponsor has helped me so much,I just hope I can be as good a sponsor as mine is someday , I'm so happy for you KT.......Hugs Lu
I still can't get myself to ask for a sponsor, i feel that I'm gonna burden them with my problems while they have their own, but i feel good about reading all the comments about getting a sponsor.
