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Hi all. My boyfriend has just gone into treatment for alcoholism. I was just wondering if Al-Anon is right for me?
A little about me, I have been living with alcoholics my entire life starting with my dad. Me myself drink maybe once a year and only about two or three drinks at that.
My bf and I have been together for about 9 months now, he is a very caring and loving man just the alcohol has taken over his life for the last four months now. I guess I'm was his enabler as every day I would go to the liquor store and buy his alcohol. I hated doing it but I hated seeing him in pain more.
He took the first step today and went to detox and is going to get treatment after that.
-- Edited by Andie69 on Monday 7th of March 2016 04:18:09 PM
It is strongly suggested if one is attending
AA the partner attends alanon so both people
Are working on their own recovery. You each
Have your own higher power and programs
To work. They are independent of each other.
Many of us grew up in alcoholism and/or its
dysfunction Then we marry into it, so we have
a lifetime To recover from ourselves.
We find like minded People in relationships. Not
true of everyone, Some were blessed and grew
up in a healthy Loving home.
I agree with Marandac - AA is for the alcoholic and Al-Anon is for the family and friends of alcoholic. Alcoholism is considered a family disease and typically the affect is broader than the drinker.
Often we don't even realize how we are affected until there is a pause in the chaos/insanity of the disease. I do encourage you to attend some meetings, and get a feel for what it offers and what it's about.
Welcome here to MIP - glad you found us and glad you shared! Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Andie only you can decide that and the best way of doing that which I know from experience is by attending Al-Anon for 90 days steadily and listening with an open mind. Also get the literature which is available on the literature tables and speak with the membership who have time in recovery. Keep coming back here also as we are very very much like those in the meetings. ((((hugs))))
Welcome! I'm betting that from just looking through the posts on this board you are probably seeing some thing you can relate to.
Al-Anon has been a great resource to me as I grew up surrounded by alcoholism and continued that cycle myself, and married into it and now have a child who is an alcoholic as well.
There is so much to be learned, I first learned that I did not cause it (alcoholism), I cannot cure it, and I cannot control it. At some points in my life , I believed that I could control it.
Now I know differently and my life is much better because I am not constantly riding the wave of chaos that addiction brings.
I hope you will try some meetings, whether face to face or here online. They have been my lifeline.
