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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The C2C reading for March 6 speaks about having our " needs met" and that nobody truly knows what's in our mind and heart, unless we express it. It suggests that we cannot expect other people to meet all of our needs even if I make them clear. That was my problem I always thought my hubby could read my mind(after all I could read his) and then I expected him to fill all my expectations and needs , without asking .This page illustrates the important fact that is not so.If the first person I ask for help is unable to provide it, I can ask someone else. This takes the pressure off all of us. It suggests that we can no longer expect others to read our minds, and we must accept that we cannot read another's mind either,( how often I was wrong in my reading of my hubby's intentions and actions)
The reading suggests that must treat the people in our lives with more respect because we are learning to ask for what we need and to encourage others to do this.
The reminder is helpful as it states: that help, comfort and support are available to me as long as I'm willing to reach out for what I need.
The quote is from, In All Our Affairs. "I cannot expect anyone to help me unless I am willing to share I need help."
Thank you Betty for the daily - so, so powerful and true. I was one who looked at my phone for a long while before I actually picked it up and dialed another person when I was in need of help. I still at times expect others to know what I think, feel, need, want, etc. and that just doesn't work...it never has and it never will.
It is so easy to say - I'll call you - and then at times can be hard to do - esp. when I am off-balance. A part of me has been perfectly OK for this last 2.x months and another part of me is just processing....there's been a lot happening.
I appreciate your service and this is a great read for reminding me that help is just a hand/phone call away!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
