The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Stood up to boyfriend yesterday for behavior of his towards me that i felt was unacceptable. Looking out for number one-ME. Wont bore you with many detailes. Just that boyfriend had angry exchange with strange woman i didnt know about money. Saw a side of boyfriend had never seen.. He hastly decided to take me home without explanation. We had had such a successful and good day up to then. He is a hoarder and he had even cleaned his refrigerator under my mild direction.....yesterday... I got home angry,crying and confused. The put on mu big girl boots and my ALANON garters LOL and wrote him an email, telling him reasonably that this unexplanned incident was not acceptable to me with the behavior towards me. We talked on the phone frankly and i told him that I had come too far to put up with this type of behavior. GOOD For me!!!!!
Alyce - good for you - way to use your program to protect yourself and defend accordingly! Keep working it - it looks good on you (as does your big girl boots + Al-Anon garters)...
Love that analogy - I now have a visual!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene