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Post Info TOPIC: Look at all these circuses that aren't mine!!!


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Look at all these circuses that aren't mine!!!


There's a lady who lives directly opposite me who has some clear mental health issues. I feel for her, she's sweet and friendly one minute and then in the middle of the street screaming and arguing with rocks, or thin air, or her own foot, or...you get the idea. Schizophrenia or something alike I guess, poor thing.

Anyway it's gotten quite bad lately; a week ago she dragged heaps of rubbish out and strewed it all over her nature strip. When some neighbours tried to put it into garbage bags (it was blowing all over the street and there were mountains of it) she stood screaming very colourfully at them to get away from her property or she'd call the police. (Sure, "officer, I threw rubbish all over the street and these bad people are cleaning it up. Arrest them!!").

Yesterday she had thrown a broken window into the street, and i didn't get out to pick it up but turned around and drove the long way because i didn't have time for a scene if she decided to attack me for touching her smashed window in the middle of the road. Sigh. It was gone when i got home. Anyway last night there was someone with her which i thought was good because she has been having so many attacks of screaming and swearing in the street and I think she's really in trouble. She seemed to be laughing with this person very loudly and I thought they were there to help but it deteriorated into all night screaming again and I realised this male was actually there drinking with her (Very helpful, really. Thanks mate). I realised later it was not her son as I'd hoped but the drunk from down the street. Thought he'd be helpful by taking her around a drink i guess and having a chat. Goody.

He left at about 5am, after a couple of hours standing in the street trying to "calm her down" (after getting liquored up??? Was this his first day on earth or something???)) and she continued screaming until...well, she was still going when I left this morning and there were other people there...actual family members this time I think so I left it be.

When I came home there were paramedics, and police but they didn't take her with them and instead they retreated after an hour or so of her loudly and helpfully suggesting they take their leave please and find some farm animals to fornicate with.

Sigh. I was afraid of her last night, the sounds coming out of her were like something from the exorcist and it was impossible to sleep. (I'm not kidding, at the height of it it seriously sounded as if there were  hundred voices coming out of her at once, it was so seriously disturbing). But I also feel very, very sad for her as she's clearly incredibly ill and I doubt she'll have the freedom of independent living for much longer which is a great shame as I know she values it when she is lucid. But gawd the noise, the misery, the rage and smashing stuff, it's so unsettling. This street is like living in an asylum. It's just draining.

On the other side of town, in my class today (and OH I am loving attending real live classes with real live people again) we were discussing  liver disorders and the teacher made the comment that "if someone is an alcoholic you need to address the alcoholism before beginning any treatment" and several of us looked at her sideways and said "um, OK, but we can't cure alcoholism so, " and nope, she wasn't having it. She just kept repeating that if we were doing our job properly we would be able to make the client understand what alcohol was doing to their health and therefore, they would stop and then we could treat the liver. And then she reminded us that we have all done 3 whole counseling units as a part of our degree so....need she say more?

So, lots of sideways looks were exchanged in that class, because, good grief. Really?

Anyway. Goodness, what a lovely lot of opportunities for me to practice detaching today!!!

I hope for a peaceful night at least. There's been no screaming for a few hours now so fingers crossed this bout is over.

Ugh!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 



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Wow,that is a lot of drama,and opportunities for you to use your detaching skills,,,hope it gets better for you ,,,,,hugs Lu


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Oh MissMel.......that just sounds like so much fun (NOT) with your neighbor. What I love about your writing is you didn't just focus on the chaos it is bringing into your life, you wrote about the compassion and empathy you have for her as you understand that she's truly sick. Kudos to you for finding your heart in a very difficult situation - great program @ work!!

I am one who just has to SMH (shake my head) when I encounter anyone who believes alcoholics can be fixed, or convinced or ... it's a choice or they'll never change or ... anything like this. It just reminds me of how baffling the disease is. The disease tells the alcoholic that 'one drink won't hurt' and tells the Al-Anoner that they are just choosing to drink. It's powerful and so many people just don't understand the disease and the way it progresses and plays with the mind of all it can suck in.

Detaching and turning it over is such a lovely gift for those of us with recovery. How freeing is it to just say, I can't change this - somebody else is in charge? So true - not your circus and not your monkeys!

(((Hugs))) - prayers for peaceful sleep and continued peace!

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Hi Ms.M Love your colorful descriptions of the evening events and of your neighbor's activity I have an upstairs neighbor who is very much the same .She throws gatbage out the window at people and the numerous strange voices that I hear coming out of her apartment from her are quite disturbing ( as you said exorcist like).I have called security numerous times without much success. Sending positive thoughts to you .

As far as the mis-information regarding alcoholism and treatment, I find it widespread and would answer any quiz with the information provided assuming they are talking about normal drinkers
Thanks for being here.

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