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S-save 
M-mother
O-obsess
O-own
T-take abuse
H-HP (be his or let him be your tin God)
E-expect
R-react                        What's the opposites to these ? Please any body ?? Gonna be my tool for today,,,,,my abf not wanting to leave he is being so nice and helpful,and I'm feeling bad sorry for him,but I need my space ,I hate he having to give up his gravy train here ,free ride,but I can't do it I'm trying to be nice about it all to,this I can see gonna be a rough day storms coming in to,lol,I'm gonna stick to my guns ,and also use easy does it,cause I can fly off the handle and that I don't want to bring myself to,of course he is gonna do whatever to stay cause he has had it made here,not working,etc,etc.him and sister both addicts I can't take no more.im done,I can cook for myself and I can make my own coffee and wash my own clothes,he been doing it cause he wants to but then he gets so sick,laid up in bed for days on end,his sucking up to me and sister today is not gonna get him a free stay ticket.........hugs Lu, 



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Good tool LU  I have tried to do what you asked

Save -- Focus on myself and take care of myself


Mother-               Treat everyone with respect and courtesy knowing that they are adults and capable of making their own choices.


Obsess------------- Go to a meeting, call a sponsor read C2C


Own                     Stop blaming and judging others.


Take abuse            Validate yourself


HP                         Examine my motives and act with faith


Expect                   Live in the moment with courage, serenity and wisdom with faith and NO expectation


React                    Stop, do not say anything, think, then respond without blaming others  



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Betty

THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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Great mrs Betty,and thank you,I'm trying to get to the oppisites of these words??? I'm trying to find tools to help me throughout today or slogans to not blame myself or feel guilty or angry ,or bad about having my abf, move out today,I shouldn't and I'm not gonna justify what I've already decided on,keeping my serenity.,

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Good Luck Do not react, respond with courtesy and respect and validate yourself. Do not JA DE: Justify, argue, defend or engage and you will do well

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Betty

THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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