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You know I try .. lol. My job situation is not good which is actually ok. I am currently looking for another one and will need to make another leap of faith. I will miss working downtown and really would rather stay in that area .. I love it is putting it mildly. So far the purging has been 7 people in the last 5 weeks and I'm on the list. It bothers me the lack of honesty, transparency, and integrity that goes with this and it is so funny to watch the control issues going on. What's my behavior when someone tries to do the controlling thing? Ohhh .. I rebel .. I do exactly the opposite of what is stated .. lol .. I will admit fully that is part of the passive aggressive side of me that basically says F U I have had enough.
I'm just working on letting go of that situation and focusing on the positive of what I get out of it.
Now on the other side .. ha ha .. my X and attorney's .. looks like I really might be done with court for at least a short time I'm sooo happy. I will be headed back into town to get my stuff and get back out to TX. I'm waiting to plan because if I have another job lined up then I will take about 3 - 4 days and get this accomplished, it would be another door closed to open yet another one. I'm soo excited. :) In my case with this door closing I seriously do not have to deal with my X unless something happens with his job. There is a new statute too about his job hopping .. LOL. He will not be happy about that one so even if we have to go to court he is the one who will pay the consequences.
I can not begin to tell you how thrilled I am. So even with the chaos so many, many positive things happening. I went and saw Tracy Lawrence last night, I will be sad when my free tickets end .. LOL.
Ohhh biggest news in our house .. my daughter has a boyfriend .. LOL .. yes the grocery store stalker. He is the NICEST young man. I couldn't be happier for her that her first TX crush is a good guy. Very respectful, very kind, and very compassionate, he is so into her however not in a bad way at all. They share common interests and goals, I have never seen her talk to someone outside of her best friend in this way, so I'm doing a happy dance for her and her emotional health. The other thing is we got her ranking out of almost 600 kids she's in the top 125. I'm extremely proud of her. Her class load next year by choice is going to be huge, .. I think for her it's the right decision. She's got time to make a more educated decision for herself. The counselor about had a cow that I was deferring to my girl for her thoughts on what she wanted to take. It did not go well for the counselor. My girl and I left the room and she started laughing saying oh Mom .. that woman doesn't know you at all and was fit to be tied. So she's adjusting and doing well. I just really pray I can find a place that she can stay at that will allow her to continue at that specific school.
My boy got two medals for his singing. I was thrilled for him. He too has a girlfriend .. I laugh .. I am concerned we are going to have to have some serious discussion about a few things. Not a conversation as a mother I thought I would be having with my son .. lol .. oh well, we'll get through it. I have made available to him some other resources, he is insistent that he'd rather talk to me .. oh the joys. Gotta love being a single mother in this regard. Sorry boy I don't have the equipment, so I have no direct experience. LOL! He seems to be doing ok in school I haven't pushed the issue though.
I'm still hunting for a house or apartment.
Out of all of this I have realized I have such great people around me and I am so incredibly blessed. Guess what .. a girlfriend of mine is setting me up with a guy she knows .. I'm not sure how I feel about that however .. you know it's ok .. I told her works out doesn't workout I have such a great women friends I would love to expand my circle.
Hugs all :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Hugs lady! Sounds like the kids are doing great! The job stuff, I know, can be stressful. I hope you have fun on your date, just getting to know someone new and enjoying life is what being single is all about. I still can't believe you're dealing with court stuff and your ex, ugh! Hugs again! Hope all goes well with both the job and the stuff with your ex.
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
(((Serenity))) - sounds as if your continued forward steps keep you moving towards the light! It warms my heart to hear how well your children (and you) have adjusted. That's super cool to hear and I can tell by how you write about it that you are very much at peace with the move and even joyful for the fresh start.
Also very glad to hear that things should be 'over' or 'finalized' with your EX soon. That sounds like a God-thing to me as it seems it's been going on a long, long while - and I'm not even living it, only reading about it through your shares!
Many hopes your date goes well and even more hopes that your circle of new friends continues to grow. I have no doubt you'll land a job you like - you are well-spoken and can add value just about any place you land!
(((Hugs))) for all of you - thanks for the share ... it's always good for me to hear how it's working for others!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
