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How normal is it for a 44 year old man to require a walker after 5 days in detox?? I am horrified. he fell yesterday, luckily onto a mattress... but the physio gave him a walker.
What???
Is this common? I feel shocked. and horrified. This is a guy who is big and strong. He's using a walker.
It's possibly more for liability and certainty to avoid a fall than because he's that unstable - but I dunno.....alcoholism can cause severe tremors and shakes, especially during detox. Each person is different during detox, but typically the worse the detox the bigger the drinker. This is not always the case - every body processes alcohol differently, thus also detoxes differently.
Hang in there.....just breathe!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Rachel Alcoholism is a disease of the mind, body, spirit and emotions which can never be cured only arrested by total abstinence. If not arrested it is progressive up to and including insanity and death. Quite reasonably you are watching your 44 year old husband approaching what I know as the "terminal" stage. The walker is a clue even while you see his age as a disqualification of it. Alcoholism (compulsion and addiction) is a fatal disease...it kills. It is indiscriminate. My spirit speaks to my Higher Power asking that your husband be held up to regain he faculties and also cease drinking. ((((hugs))))
thanks again, Jerry. I can see that you are very wise about this process.
It is terrifying to see him like this... and yet he was also happy?! that he had a walker and didn't want to rely on someone else... but I'm thinking... yeah... but fuck you need a walker???????
sorry if I swear. I'm very blunt sometimes. I don't mind if I am censored.
sorry for what you seeing. i ve see it all. my XAH has many times depleted most of his potasium,magnisuim,electrolytes etc during drinking heavily so in dextox he is given IV or pills of this stuff. It can contribute to unsteady walking,shakes etc to drinking so much
Rachel, I too understand how shocking and distressing it is to see your loved one -- who was recently strong and capable -- using a walker. It is scary to see someone appear to age rapidly almost right before our eyes. We don't know what the future holds. Alcoholism and other diseases mix together.
I can tell you that I have seen that, been there, been through it, -- I thought I would go insane -- but with the moral support of dear friends and this AlAnon program, I have made it through and am OK.
The smiles is often false security and the inability to take the situation seriously and too the alcoholic can often draw attention to themselves as hapless victims of stuff. Who knows? too also the smile maybe an attempt to take the seriousness and worry out of the situation maybe even so temporary. My spouse never had this behavior and use to take on a quiet serious demeanor for the time being when it would reoccur. I loved it when she finally got sober which gave me hope that she would continue to live although I don't know if she has maintained her sobriety. This disease is maddening....and what is worse in my mind is that business and politics keeps it growing...((((hugs))))
