IAM, I do understand why the quote has given you pause for thought. I have discovered that when I expect a certain outcome and
I don't get it, there is disappointment. My expectations are that I deserve something and I believe that HP has a design for the
majority of my experiences. All those experiences lead to a better understanding and gifts of knowledge, whether I get what I
want or not. It is a win/win situation, I believe!! {{HUGS}}

IAH, thank you for sharing that thought and inviting consideration, and Debb for your perspective.

This quote caused me to pause, also, as I considered the difference between expectation and expectancy as I think of them, and how each tends to impact my perspective.

An expectation is a noun, a thing, a singular event on my perceived horizon, one (or less) out of the 360 degrees of the full circle of possible outcomes. My focus, attention, and efforts are aligned in this direction, often according to a timeline that I have arbitrarily attached to it. Unlike a rabbit, my vision covers a fairly narrow range without turning my head, and thus I miss well over half of what's going on around (and behind) me.

Expectancy is a state, a condition, a sense or assurance that something is to happen, but not sure exactly what, when, where, why, or how. In a state of expectancy, therefore, I am much more likely to turn and consider other visual lines, and thus see more possibilities, than when I am locked in on one sightline. Realizing that there are many more possibilities, I am also less likely to jump on the first one I see, or force one that isn't timely.

I also considered the state of readiness I would be in between the two. When I am confident that I know what is going to happen or what I believe should happen, and in fact something different happens behind me, I can be startled and am ill prepared to adjust to the situation.

If I am in a state of expectancy, open to outcomes along the full circle of possibilities, I am better prepared and quicker in my adjustments to take advantage of opportunities that I identify.

I have found that AlAnon has helped me pull my head around from my narrow field of negative expectations, thoughts, and behavior to consider the many, positive alternatives that exist when I look for them. In AlAnon I realized that I do not know what will happen, or what should happen, even for myself. 

Working to drop my expectations of myself and others is incredibly rewarding when I am working my program and commit, instead, to turning things over to my hp with the expectancy that everything will work out. So much better than the frustration, anxiety, and pain of misplaced or unrealized expectations. I know nothing, and for that I am grateful...