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I have been thinking about what the ABF has said about our age difference and trying to see his perspective. He says he is 6 years older than me and he has a different mind set, values, dreams than I do and he needs to think about his life as he gets older. I do not understand what he is talking about. I am a mother to a 19 year old son and a 20 year old daughter and I am 49 years old, he is 55 years old and a great grandfather of two. For some reason, this age thing is bothering him a lot. Could it be he is reevaluating his life. I do not see it as a problem, I am trying to accept him as he is and I am not bother he has grandchildren or great grandchildren. One day I will have grandchildren, I am just to young now. He is an active alcoholic and believe he could be believing his is old and worn out. His mindset is so off the wall. I keep thinking I need to be with someone else my age group and mind set that has energy and has a mind set of a great future. I do not need to be with someone that is negative and has a mental state of I am here and I am hopeless. I am so fed up with his attitude. He sees nothing but negativity. He even had talked about suicide and wanted to be buried in the back yard. He had said, I need to dig a hole and bury myself in the back yard. How hopeless. I am just getting fed up with his useless talk that makes no sense or sanity. I have to learn to walk away when he gets into that mind set that he is old and worn out! Get a fucking life! I am so angry that he talks like this and see no future. I keep thinking maybe he is wanting to be with someone else his own age group and they can have a worn out life together-talking about aches and pain. The other is he talks non stop about moving home to his home province (live in Canada), but again no action has been taken by him to initiate anything. Its all talk, talk but no action behind anything he says! Its unreal and I am so fed up with hearing him talk and talk even when sober and nothing getting done! How do I deal with this. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks.
Joker he is active and acting insane, just
focus on yourself Thats all you can do.
Help and save yourself, he has his own HP,
You can not fix him.That is his job.
Keep up the ftf meetings, go to as many as
You can. They will save your sanity.
If You were like me you reached your rock bottom
there is one way That is up. i learned by Listening,
and absorbing to all the esh I possibly could so
It sunk in and i begin to change and grow.
Was thinking same as Miranda. He is just acting like a generic self pitying alcoholic....living to die when you would rather live to live. Sucks. You will have choices ahead on how much you can detach with love and if that means "I can't listen to you talk about x, y, z" or if it means "I'm outta here. Carry on the pity pary on your own."
