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I'm back,I'm working the steps also still at 1st step in path,and doing the Ctc,and one day at a time ,ftf meetings are in next town over and I'm got night blindness so I'm still working on trying to find someone to carpool with cause I really need ft for.reason I'm here today is that my abf mom passed away last night his dad been gone for 20 yrs he was very close to his mom and next week he has to meet with a court appointed attorney to go over all his charges they got him on not looking good at all looking at prison time any way he left today to go be with his bro and sis,I wasn't invited of course his mom ended up not Likeing me cause I stood my ground with her here at my house I meant no harm to her I still loved her like my own but it happened now I'm not knowing what to do except sit here at home wondering I just read something from another's post about being in the solution not the drama I interpreted that to apply to me ,made me feel some what better ,can any body please explain that slogan to me ,Ty,abf hasn't got drunk in a long time cause he taken pills,I guess all this ,his stuff is making me nervous and the fact I snapped on him today plum forgot about his mom passing ,she will have only a memorial cause she donated her body to science,and I don't think I'm welcomed cause of what happened with me and her here at my home ,I stood my ground,now my thoughts are of ,,I just want out out of it all,the relationship ,to much drama for me any more,a lot of crap under the bridge over the last 8 yrs of this crazy relationship,esh plz .im gong back to read again.........thanks for letting me ramble on like always,just I'm sitting here and he has been gone for hours and my thinking is I won't see him all weekend he will be out with some woman partying it up.its killing me,and I will eventually be able to stay away from him.......more esh plz.....hugs ,chinup
Hi Lookingup I am sorry to read of the loss of your BF's mom. Be gentle with yourself during this time of grief. The way I see it you are living int the solution and are not part of the problem.
I am happy to hear that you are using your alanon tools, working the Steps n Path's to Recovery and attempting to "Live in the solution"
For me ,Living in the solution means that, instead of going to my old tools of anger, resentment, self pity and fear, when a problem comes up , I pick uo alanon tools like the slogans,, the serenity prayer, or call an alanon friend to discuss it. You have done that by coming here and explaining your situation and your feelings. Good Job . Keep living one day at a time, trusting hP and sharing the journey.
I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your bf's mom! I've only been on this site a week, so I'm not sure what to say except that I'm sorry that you're going through all of this alone. Sometimes it helps me to become engrossed in a book, or watch tv, or even talk to a good friend when my mind is full, and sometimes I write in my journal. I'm not sure what the answer is but I'm thinking about you and will say a prayer for you
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KathyRN
"A PROBLEM IS ONLY A PROBLEM, IF YOU CHOOSE TO SEE IT AS A PROBLEM!"
Thanks hot rod and kathrn,and welcome kath to alanon boards,this has mostly been my place to come to get serenity and relief from everything,going through such a time as this with abf is hard ,makes me feel left out or unwanted,he won't answer my texts I've texted his ph several times and he has been gone most of day ,I know he isn't with his bro or sis so guess he is doing whatever it takes to kill the pain,it's just scares me ,knowing next week is his time to go do time for the crime he committed,and loseing his mom to,but I'm happy that she passed before he had to go back to jail,sad sit. It's like bad isn't bad enough for abf,I'm sooo grateful for alanon and my hp for times like this.and I'm soooo grateful for careing alanon ears like yall and everyone else on this board,yall are truly angels to me. Lots of hugs going out to each and everyone of yall.
