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Tomorrow is Dad's funeral. That alone is overwhelming.
My sister's stirring of the pot may have re-severed the precarious relationship with my Aunt and Uncle. It was her fabricated tales that drove them to be angry with me and history could have repeated. I know that if that's all it took for my Aunt and Uncle to be swayed, then I am better off with people who have better vision. It's just that it would have been nice to have their support in my life.
I am counting my blessings and am grateful for the wonderful people who I do have in my life. While the pain of growing experiences are heavy threads of fabric woven in my material, I know I can rise above this if I just keep turing the upset over to my HP.
(Bud)) Honor your Dad at his funeral and keep the focus on yourself and your lovely memories. Rememeber HP is with you and you can come here and lets know how it went. Positive thoughts and prayers on the way .
-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 16th of January 2016 06:24:59 PM
(((Bud))) - your post is so hopeful in spite of your loss. Great job processing for you while letting the 'distractions' fall outside your hula hoop.
Take your toolbox with you as well as your HP and you'll get through it. You aren't alone and we're all just a post away!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you all so very much! Last night my sister texted me that she's not coming because Dad didn't say good bye to her. I can find humor in this and I know it was a cry for attention. I didn't have it in me to respond and she is welcome to grieve however is best for her. Today I will send her a loving text hoping she is doing ok and leave it at that. I'll bet she shows up.
I woke up with the beautiful sunrise and am getting ready slowly as I do my best to remain centered. I'm so blessed to take your wonderful support with me and know that I am not alone. I am so grateful!!!
(((bud))) - continued prayers for you and positive thoughts. What a lovely gift - a beautiful sunrise - may it bring you peace as you say Good-bye to your father.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
So sorry for your loss and the situation you are dealing with in your family. My aunt and uncle turned my grandfather against me just with words they said I said, but never did. It's so very sad, but I have just stayed away. Anyway - family can be so disappointing at times. Thinking of you :)
Bud - I've been really inspired by your posts these last several days. I can't imagine loosing both my parents in such a short amount of time, but you are walking this out with such grace, love and dignity... oh, and even a little chuckle from the sister's text. Thank you for your shares - praying serenity abounds.
