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Hi dear MIP family, I'm writing from a hotel room. I received word that my dad passed last night and so I drove a few hours to say my good byes. I collected a few momentos and my daughter who lives too far to be with me secured a room so I didn't have to drive home . My mom passed last year, the day after Xmas. He is now with her and is happy. kmowing that doesn't make this easier. My sister called with her usual flair for chaos. She's hired what sounds like a mover to collect his things. Presumptuously thinking she's entitled to everything. My dad was in a nursing home - she cleaned out his entire estate 2 years ago. All that is left is a few chairs, a nightstand, a lamp, and a tv. She wanted all these items too. I didn't engage. I lost a parent just like she did so I excused myself from the phone and took the lamp and tv . it feels like this month I'm surrounded by the disease of not enoughness. I'm blessed for my years of alanon and my alanon toolkit. I'm taking care of me and what anyone else thinks is none of my business . yhank you for the support- so appreciated!
Corrected the cell phone autocorrect - hopefully I'm making more sense!
-- Edited by bud on Friday 15th of January 2016 08:22:15 AM
Absolutely sending you hugs and support Bud.
Glad you're taking care of you and I'm sorry for the loss of your dad.
(((Bud)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I can only imagine, but my thoughts are with you and I daresay those of everyone here too.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
((Bud)) I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your Dad. I found that the memories that I cherished from a lifetime of love with that person, far outweighed the possessions others found so important. Keep using your program tools.
(((Bud))) - I too am so sorry for the loss of your Father. I applaud you for taking your tools with you and using your Al-Anon tools. Sending prayers of peace to you and want you to know that we are thinking of you here.
Keep taking good care of you as best you can, one day at a time.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Betty. I wish I had him longer but I do have peace and I left nothing unsaid - my dad always knew how much I loved him and how much I cherished our time together. I feel completely blessed. I know I can't hold on to him thru things but I can hold him with me always in my memories.
Thank you Mirandac , Sunday I'll need lots of sane! I know sis is going to go bonkers because she refuses to share, compromise and acknowledge that I lost a parent too. Practicing detachment.
Very Sorry to Hear of the Loss of Your Father... My Thoughts & Prayers are with you in this Tough Time...
I remember when My Dad Past, None of my Siblings spoke to him but I... So I was "Stuck" Dealing with all his STUFF... and All I Really wanted was the "Stuff" to disappear and have my Dad Back... So I took Most of His Stuff to Charity (putting a few things back for his Gr.kids) and Did My Best to Cherish the Memories we Shared that where Good... And then I Found Al-Anon...
The Healing Came a lot Faster after I Accepted I was Powerless over Others and their Actions, and there Unkind Words... Your Program Shows thru your Share... Lifting you Healing Prayers for your Loss...
